Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Weekly Metaphysical Readings

27th February 2018 – Metaphysical Reading for The Real Food Tribe (Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food)

Welcome to this week’s reading by Joanna Becker, author, blogger, and healer (communication with spirits) for the Real Food Tribe Blog.

It is the last week of February and the first week of March. Another week to demonstrate that the year is progressing towards your health goals and you are on track with your intentions.

For food this week, take a different approach to choosing what you will eat.

Instead of using a meal planner, or straining your mind to come up with a fresh idea, or even asking others what they want to eat (if that is what you are typically likely to do), sit down quietly for a moment, and invite yourself to feel what it is that you are craving.

When you are in touch and have an image, imagine the sensation of eating the meal you are imagining. Feel the taste in your mouth. Smell the aromas of the meal. Imagine touching it with your hands and putting it into your mouth. And feel the taste and the warmth or coolness of the food on your tongue.

This is how you will detect what you are craving, and what your body is asking for.

If it feels good then make plans to make this meal as best as you can, using the ingredients you have, or take a quick visit to the market or farmer’s stall to pick up what you don’t have that you need.

This may be a new experience for you and something that you enjoy and want to continue with in future, which is great. Instinct guiding your food choices is a great way to nourish your body and become present in your senses in your busy life.

You will likely find that your family and children will enjoy the meal as well. Being that it is something you are investing your full awareness and intention into, it will no doubt taste perfect to both yourself and to them.


Let love be your compass. 

Joanna Becker

© Copyright 2018. Joanna Becker is an Australian author, blogger and healer (communication with spirits) at The Real Food Tribe Blog website ( She has authored books on self-healing using internal dialogue with self and spirit, positive affirmations, meditation, and conscientious parenting. In 2018 Joanna Becker will be offering free channeled messages on the topic of nourishing the body with Real Food. In addition, you can join Joanna and her tribe in the private support page Real Food Tribe – Private Support on Facebook, click here to join:

Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Weekly Metaphysical Readings

13th January 2018 – Metaphysical Reading for The Real Food Tribe (Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food)

Welcome to this week’s reading by Joanna Becker, author, blogger, and healer (communication with spirits) for the Real Food Tribe Blog.

Exciting things are happening in the world right now with the enthusiasm of supporting local community workers and remembering to pay people what they deserve for the effort they put into their offerings. For example, there are local producers of all kinds of goods all over the world, and they are rapidly being chosen and favoured over larger corporations that commercialise their manufacturing of products – we all know them, large companies creating enormous scale quantities of products, food and otherwise, and making it difficult for locals and everyday people to compete and make a living for themselves.

This week we ask you to choose to support your local producers in whichever way you can. This is not to say that you cannot buy online or from businesses such as larger supermarkets at all – it is to simply open your eyes to who is working around you and the need they too have for supporting their family with their exceptional talent and skill for producing a particular service or product.

Who is it that you are living nearby to that is talented at making preserves, growing food, gardening, farming, even creating tools and materials, or servicing all these people, with their own personal effort? The reason we ask you to open your eyes to the energy that is in your local community, is because embracing relationships in your local community and truly honouring who is working hard around you, investing their effort and talents in this way, will reward you with a satisfying and empowering relationship both now and in the future.

Let your intuition guide you, simply ask for your angels and your intuition to allow you to see this week, those local community members who are offering their skill, talent and experience, to service your community – and if it’s possible, invite them into your world by trying out their products or services for a change.

Enjoy a wonder-full week and remember the world is changing, and so must you. Each day is a new day to be grateful for what has passed, to live in the moment, and take advantage of change so as to keep yourself fulfilled for a wonderful tomorrow and beyond.

Let love be your compass. 

Joanna Becker

© Copyright 2018. Joanna Becker is an Australian author, blogger and healer (communication with spirits) at The Real Food Tribe Blog website ( She has authored books on self-healing using internal dialogue with self and spirit, positive affirmations, meditation, and conscientious parenting. In 2018 Joanna Becker will be offering free channeled messages on the topic of nourishing the body with Real Food. In addition, you can join Joanna and her tribe in the private support page Real Food Tribe – Private Support on Facebook, click here to join:





Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Weekly Metaphysical Readings

2nd January 2018 – Metaphysical Reading for The Real Food Tribe (Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food)


Welcome to this week’s reading by Joanna Becker, author, blogger, and healer (communication with spirits) for the Real Food Tribe Blog. As you’re enjoying the first fresh days of the new year, and setting intentions and reflecting on what was great (and not so great) about the year passed, don’t forget to listen to your body and honour its very specific needs at the beginning of a new cycle.

The body’s seasons begin fresh every year: within your body’s internal biological clock, there is a re-birth occurring. So think of it like the beginning of Spring – a fresh time, waking up, setting intentions, spreading wings, tasting new things, trying new experiences with excitement and vigour, all while being aware that you are cared for, loved and safe and have a beautiful spiritual support system on call, anytime, within your own energetic field.

Let’s talk about which foods are best for your body at the time of year when you are waking from a tiring, effortful end of year, and ready to start a new chapter of your life time with improved happiness and success.

Cucumbers, are fresh and cooling, and light on the body to process. They are invigorating, and especially great for stimulating new thoughts and generating inspiration and enthusiasm.

Strawberries, a summer fruit, are a sweet treat that are enjoyed from frozen in smoothies or ice-crush drinks. They create a feeling of safety, love, nourishment and enjoyment in the life that it is now, presently.

Lettuce, a great food for summer, and great crisp energy for encouraging you to be light-footed, energetic and embracing new experiences. Easy to digest, nourishing with a good supply of water, easy on the tastebuds. This food is good for creating an energetic field of lightness, but also grounding, with structure and stability.

Sometimes during the early parts of this year you may feel like there is no way to improve on the situations you experienced last year. It is paramount that you monitor your language, that comes out of your mouth, and is passed through your brain in thoughts, and your heart in emotions, and improve on what you say. Thoughts are the key to your ultimate fulfilment. The sense of wonder that you will have in life, this year, will be generated from the words that you speak, think and feel. Words that will be especially helpful for you this year, in creating a safe and healthy home for yourself and your children, are:

  • “Let this food inspire us to be better versions of ourselves.”
  • “Especially now, I welcome this food into my body to nourish and enable healthful growth and support.”
  • “Yes, I am willing to improve my body’s health and am ready to try new foods.”
  • “Give me the strength, courage, discipline, and ambition to try what is ultimately good for me and can inspire my children to do what is good for them.”
  • “Thank you for the food I eat, the water I drink, the air I breathe, and nature I enjoy.”

It is of course helpful to print out phrases such as the above and include them on the dining table or breakfast bar, and involve the family in reading them aloud during meals.

Thank you for sharing a wonder-full 2017 with me and the Real Food Tribe Community.

You are loved more than you know! Be yourself, bless others and live your truth.

Let love be your compass.

© Copyright 2018. Joanna Becker is an Australian author, blogger and healer (communication with spirits) at The Real Food Tribe Blog website ( She has authored books on self-healing using internal dialogue with self and spirit, positive affirmations, meditation, and conscientious parenting. In 2018 Joanna Becker will be offering free channeled messages on the topic of nourishing the body with Real Food. In addition, you can join Joanna and her tribe in the private support page Real Food Tribe – Private Support on Facebook, click here to join:


Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Playing the Traffic Light Game + teaching your kids about Life Food vs. Labelled Food

We live in an awesome time, with a super-intelligent society and more resources and facilities than ever before. Our parents lived in times of massive industrial/commercial growth with new products and advances in advertising, packaging and marketing through technology. To our parents, new products on the supermarket shelves were a reason to be excited!

Somewhere along the line, however, we awesome people generally stopped questioning how food was being made and if it was healthy. Supermarkets, which were at first an exciting novelty, became routine and an integral way of life. We started to take packaged food for granted. And children of this generation learned supermarket shopping as the only way. Many of us are still consciously and sub-consciously influenced by advertisers and marketers, and have not the time to question everything.

Trying to educate us are medical experts, nutritionists, naturopaths, social workers, and so on, who encourage us to take on a certain diet or purchase certain food groups and supplements to benefit our health. There are charts and diagrams, tables and lists, of exactly what is in each food, and calculations for us to estimate our daily intake of certain food groups.

When it comes to feeding a family, counting food groups and calculating ‘recommended dietary intake’ is confusing, difficult to teach children, and is hard to live with. And it has possibly created an unhealthy and complicated view of what it really is to be healthy.

That’s why I love this game and love sharing it with parents who want some simple techniques! I believe this game is a healthier approach than label-reading.

Parenting Energy Life Food Fun a simple way to change the way you and your children think about eating. In this approach everything is good in abundance and everything is recommended. If it’s Life Food, it’s good to eat.

We have always had fun with our Food-Life-Fun game at home.

Why you might like this game?
1. You are passionate about creating and sharing ways of feeding our body in ways that honour the body’s natural, organic functions.
2. You respect the earth and its natural ways of providing us with an edible habitat.
3. You are enthusiastic and committed to making sure your kids eat extra servings of real, healthy, beneficial food.

What is Life Food?

Life Food is anything that is as close to its original life form as physically possible. It can be grown and produced in your home or by a neighbor – in a metaphorical sense. For example, fresh seasonal produce, free-range animal products, wheat, grains, legumes, etc – anything that can be grown and produced within a family or community environment and you can see the original food in your kitchen. This also includes home-made preserves, sauces, breads, seasonings, juices, milks, etc, or other creative ways of using Life Foods. We can buy plenty of Life Foods in the supermarket so long as we shop in the fresh-food aisles.

But Labelled Food is sold in a package and may be something you could never independently produce, due to the complicated production processes – or it may be an original Life Food that has had something added to it that couldn’t be added at home. The less the Life Food is altered, the healthier it is for your family to eat.

We have made it easy to get on the right road with Life-Food-Fun. 


With Life-Food-Fun, you simply play a game with the food that’s available and have a little fun talking about it.

Imagine a set of traffic lights. Red is stop, orange is proceed with caution or stop if possible, and red is stop. From a very young age children can learn and associate actions with these colours, and so we use these colours for Life-Food-Fun.

Life Foods are the green light. You can exclaim to your kids: “Go! Eat as much as you like! Healthy! Eat these all day! These foods help your body! Hooray!”

Life Foods, which are blended with oils, are mostly wheat products, or are animal products/bi-products, are the orange light. You can ponder with your kids: “Hmmm, lets think about this. Is this food helpful for my body? Was it produced safely, and respectfully? A little might be ok but we should plan what we’re going to eat today so we make sure to give our body the best food.”

Labelled Foods are the red light. You can say, “Whoa! Stop! Let’s think about what are asking our body to do – this food is not what our body is designed to eat.”

The ingredients in some foods we eat with our family on special occasions (such as ice cream and custard) have some harmful ingredients likened to paint stripper. We question everything, and if we can’t understand how a food is made, stop now.

The simplest way to play the game with your children is to tell them, when they pick food, what colour light it is and whether to Go! Wait and think, or Stop. Be animated! And explain why – what is the food doing that is good, or not good, for the body.

Remember, even if you have a home full of green light foods, you may find that some foods agree with you better than some others do. All people have a body that has its own unique needs that can only be discovered by each person. You will know you best, and you can learn all by yourself.

If you were to take notice of what your family eats for one week, would they be eating mostly Life Foods, or Labelled Foods? I’d love to hear your feedback to this question – comment below or send me a private message to chat.

P.S. We can eat green light all day and live healthy, happy, empowered lives. Thousands of people do right now. They feel happy and confident, look amazing, are enthusiastic to discover new foods, and they have a tasty, varied diet. Life-Food-Fun could be helpful for you, if you are taking a real-time experiment and journey of changing the foods in your pantry live healthier, natural and empowered lives.

Healthier: Giving bodies the food they need to grow and create healthy cells. Not modifying the food in radical ways that destroys their health benefits.

Natural: Respecting the relationship between the earth and human bodies by eating foods in their natural season that they grow, and minimizing food kilometers (or the carbon impact by food traveling to defy the natural season).

Empowered: Taking back control of what food is put into our body. Deciding to eat only food, and not unnatural additives.


Copyright, Joanna Becker. Seek permission to copy or reproduce. 

Food and Nutrition, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

March Connection!

Just a little something to say thank you for being amazing and taking care of your body. Putting your health and vitality first is not always easy to do, and I honour you for your commitment to your healthy body and mind.

If you haven’t yet tried one of our Vegan whole food powders that I absolutely love, and you are one of my current virtual retail store customers, you will soon be receiving a little chocolate (or vanilla) gift in the post 🙂 I start my day with mine and add in rice milk, frozen berries, banana and mango. 100% whole foods, it’s the bomb!

SMOOTHIE FUN: You can add virtually anything to a delicious morning smoothie. You can use coconut water or nut milk, any fresh fruit or vegetables from your crisper or garden, a little sweetener like banana or honey, and quickly turn it into a smoothie bowl, to refrigerate as a chia seed pudding or even pre-make and pack protein balls.

MARCH WEBINAR: Did you have a chance to attend the live webinar in March? If not, you can watch the recording by commenting on this post and I’ll reply to you directly. In this month’s free health webinar, Dr Anthony Golle reveals the truth behind the protein myth, dairy, sugar and many more conflicting pieces of advice we are faced with daily. He also gave tips on how to live with health and vitality, through these modern-day life changing principles. If you did not receive the event invite for March, please let me know and I’ll help you get access for next month 🙂

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EASTER IS AROUND THE CORNER: Are you wondering how to enjoy Easter Celebrations the healthy and wholesome way? The special chocolate edition is now out! Happy Easter Celebrations Guide is a free ebook in the Tribal Wellness private support page on Facebook. There are now over 4,000 members in our community enjoying these resources however I’d love to provide my customers with a hard copy for free – so if you would like to receive a hard copy of the Easter guide in the mail, just reply to this email.

I also want to thank you for supporting 2 incredible organisations this month.

The first, the Child Health Study. If you are participating in the global health study that is feeding 1 MILLION children around the world presently, I am committed to donating a portion of my retail profit from your order towards supporting this incredible study. The results for children, who have been participating, are phenomenal and certainly changing lives. The power of whole foods continues to blow me away.

The second, is our affiliated organisation. Again, because of your order (no matter what you order), I am committed to supporting this organisation by contributing a portion of retail profit. These funds go towards putting edible gardens and building kitchens in schools, providing tailored education programs to early childhood facilities and promoting healthy attitudes in schools where children may not necessarily have the support they need at home to choose the best foods to eat everyday. Many children and teenagers at participating entres get to eat our smoothies after school, for free, everyday too. If you would like to support either of these organisations, in any further way, I can help you do this in the way that suits you. Contact me to chat 🙂

I officially re-launched my business brand, Parenting Energy, as a community with an independent online retail store. It excites me what I am able to create in an online space with my children hanging around in the office with me – technology is still changing my life for the better. You can place orders by getting in touch with me, or simply requesting access to my online store and entering your product choice and payment information – so safe and easy, I know you’ll love the products and ease of shopping as much as I do.

And of massive benefit to you, is the ongoing access to free healthy inspiration and resources including my own ebooks, Dusty’s Wonder Bug, Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food, and Faith In Me: Birth and Pregnancy Companion – as well as the online Tribal Wellness Movement recipe/detox guides and wellness seminars. It is within both the Tribal Wellness Movement private community, and Parenting Energy private community (Facebook pages), where you will find the recordings of 33+ meditations for both you and your children, for any stage or phase in every day life. If you have been connected with me for a while, you might remember receiving these meditations by email each week over 52 weeks, while I travelled the East Coast of Australia with my family.

If you would love to hear about what inspired me to create Parenting Energy and my personal story on the Juice Plus+ products, you can watch my business launch event by clicking this link.

Have an amazing day!

Kind regards,
Jo Becker, Parenting Energy

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Food and Nutrition, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Breastfeeding: A toddler’s health and happiness counts too.

img_4716A few years ago I discovered a cheap product for toddlers that is not known by everyone. Opening up the packaging to give a toddler a taste, as I discovered first hand, was the answer for many little challenges I had with my toddler during the day – even those challenges that impacted on other people.

Like most other mums, I knew only a handful of people who knew about this product. We gave each offer knowing smiles when we saw each other opening up the packaging.

This remarkable product has been available for toddlers for a while but I think it has missed out on marketing because there really isn’t enough money in it – it just doesn’t generate high profits $$ for retailers.

Why is it not well known by everyone? Well you know what society is like with any products that are used for parenting. There’s judgement, ‘I never used that and my kids were just fine,’ questions about the safety, ‘is it natural? Is it organic?’, the price and commitment to using it frequently, and the packaging, which might not suit everyone’s tastes. Then another reason we don’t all know about it, or know about it but don’t use it, is because it is easily substituted with other like products that are quite acceptable for toddlers. There’s also the social norm and what people have learned from their parents, teachers and peers, to feed their toddlers. For some it’s a matter of what it is physically possible to feed their toddler, depending on what the child already has a taste for, or physical/medical/logistical/financial reasons.

So, this amazing product has many features and benefits – strangely it’s not all written on the packaging, perhaps it should be.

A small dose can do the following for a toddler:

– soothe a sore throat
– satisfy thirst
– soothe pain on gums from teething
– pain relief from ear-ache
– relief from high temperature and fever
– pain relief for cuts and abrasions, bruises and burns (it can even be used to cure conjunctivitis)

The manufacturer made it taste sweet so the toddler loves to drink it, of course. Human nature is to be attracted to sweet, all manufacturers of medicine know this.

Cleverly, the manufacturer added to the mixture a hormone-stimulant especially for toddlers to help them feel happy, as well as to feel calm, relaxed and even sleepy. Clinical research showed the powerful effects for putting children to sleep within 10 minutes of a drink of this stuff! That’s without any sleep training, tears, scheduling or behavioral patterning. No stress to the parent or child whatsoever!! A parent’s dream, really.

Then to make it even better, the manufacturer packed it full of vitamins and every other possible natural mechanism to prevent free radical damage within the body that is brought about by viral and subsequently developed-bacterial infections – starting with colds/flu prevention – to other serious diseases and even to cancer prevention. These mechanisms also help to create a more stable and active brain in the child, so in later life they can contribute both intelligent and creative ideas to their society. Wow!!

Further studies proved how useful (from a social/emotional/cognitive developmental view) it is to regularly give the toddler a small sip, because it gives the toddler a necessary time-out, or opportunity to draw away from the challenging learning social environment, to calm down and feel emotionally secure and safe. It teaches children to give themselves a break instead of fighting or warring with others (a good skill to learn for life if we want a peaceful world!) and to even enjoy a meditative experience, which resets the flight-and-fight response (the relax response) to reduce stress (the number one killer in the world) and to also improve brain activity – thus improving every cell in the body IMMEDIATELY.

I was told by a scientist that the association the toddler makes between the packaging and the resulting effects (pain-relief, emotional security, calming down or sleepiness) is nothing short of a scientific miracle, considering the child is so young. It can stop a tantrum or tears quicker than you can click your fingers, which in my opinion is something everyone in the public can benefit from – I’m pretty sure that people have preferred to see me calm down and soothe my toddler with this small drink then to see us struggle with tiredness in public … Just from the smiles they give me.

I suppose a toddler pointing at this special package is no different to a sick child pointing at a bottle of medicine – they know it works, it is encouraged by the educated parent as a problem-solver, and it tastes amazing too.

I heard that after extensive market research and testing, the manufacturer decided to shape the mouth-piece to be flexible and soft, and to feature its own sealing mechanism so it can’t spill the liquid. (Clever, because it can sometimes take a lot of effort and special operating processes to produce it). This mouth-piece material can even withstand chewing and bites from teething toddlers. It really is a very remarkable design. Actually the design copied a dummy (or rather, the designers of the dummy copied this design).

The design of the product fits in with a mother’s needs, too. The mother can easily carry it around without worrying about it reaching an expiry date. If she is tired and wants to rest, or even sleep, the toddler can still access this product through the safe packaging. There’s no risk of overdose or choking, at any age, don’t worry. And the toddler will not put on weight, be malnourished or have concerning cholesterol or diabetes levels as they might from over-consumption of other sweet products.

It’s just like the mother’s body was created to use this product, actually, because when a baby is just new and light, it’s easy to nurse a newborn baby across the chest on top of the tummy bulge left over from pregnancy while feeding the baby this product, and as the child grows and the bulge wanes away, the toddler can lie beside the mum fitting snugly into the hourglass shape of her body… the child is soothed into peaceful rest and the mum gets a much-needed rest as well.

This is the most bizarre scientific fact about this product of all… the mere act of feeding a toddler this product will also benefit the mother (and others around her). This is how:

– the hormones stimulated while feeding the toddler help a mother get relief from stress, reducing anxiety, and to even fall asleep for daytime naps (which are recommended around the world)
– making the effort to source this product helps prevent cancer or hormonal imbalances on the mother
– it helps the mother and father with contraception and our society with population control – without operations, medication or other chemical-based drug interventions that are increasingly bring known to contribute to hormonal diseases and cancers (… also put $$ in the pockets of pharmaceutical companies and hospitals)
– it’s like a happy pill for parents, because in addition to seeing the child become happier, the mum literally gets a flush of endorphins and a total regenerative energy boost through the whole body, which helps spread good vibes everywhere.

So here I am, telling you all about this product, and I bet mums everywhere are going to start asking me where they can buy it? It might not be available to everyone due to their personal circumstances, and unfortunately some mums desperately want it and it’s not available to them.

Is it derived from plants? No. Is it produced in a lab? No.

It is the safest, most natural remedy created within a mum’s own body. It is normal, and it is perfect. It doesn’t have to be used all the time. Mum’s can return to work and still keep it.

Breastfeeding is a gift from our maker and it is our right to accept this incredible gift.

This week, world Breastfeeding awareness week, there has been a fair deal of of cyber bullying surrounding Breastfeeding older babies and toddlers. I wonder if these people know how Breastfeeding can serve them, as a member of society? If every person can embrace seeing this beautiful process between mother and child just once every now and then, it will serve the world good. We will raise a healthier generation and improve the health of this current generation. It is important.

Happy Breastfeeding Week to all toddlers every where – drink up, you deserve to be healthy and happy within your mothers’ arms, you gorgeous little angels.

For any mothers who want to extend their Breastfeeding into the toddler years, but are struggling physically, emotionally or socially (peer pressure), please make sure to talk to someone, including me, about your feelings. Peer pressure surrounding Breastfeeding my toddler contributed to my post-natal anxiety and together we can switch this off with small steps at a time.

I learned how to rise above parenting peer-pressure and stand strong and healthy. I know how every mum can do this naturally. I passionately believe in this cause and have built this blog for this reason. “Everything is energy and energy can be transformed”. And breastfeeding a toddler is beautiful energy to be sustained and appreciated for now, for ever.

– copyright, Joanna Becker. Contact for permission to reproduce.

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Honesty and lessons in humility through parenting

img_4717‘It’s ok, mum. You’re learning. So am I.’  – My Little One, 4 years old.

I tell my little boy that I’m learning how to be the most beautiful happy version of me, in the same way that he is learning how to be his best, most beautiful version of himself, and that we are both learning how to be caring, kind and helpful to one another. ‘We are both learning how to live happily with each other,’ I say.

Like most other people I know, as a child I was taught to do everything adults told me without question. Not only did this teach me to become the adult that must always be right, but I lived years of insecurity, compromised self-identity and self-confidence. I learned that by doing what an adult told me and repeating what an adult taught me, or by copying the behavior of the respected adults around me, I was good, acceptable, loveable and worthy. Weren’t we all?

Adults rarely admit they have made a mistake. That would jeopardize their authority status.

I’ve never been comfortable with an authority role in my own parent-child relationship. I have chosen to live truthfully. The truth is: I have never experienced any particular moment before. My moments aren’t any more special, or superior, than my children’s moments. Every moment is unique and wonderful and is an experience that can’t be repeated exactly. I am grateful for every single moment. I am a learning parent, and I will be for every future moment.

To act like I’m not learning, and to think I’m unable to change my position on a parenting issue, is contrary to nature. We are all learning every day, and we are all the scientists of our own lives. We are here to explore, learn, experience and reach full empowerment, and to (bit-by-bit) discover how to live the happiest, most fulfilling life that we can possibly create with our very own power.

So to act like I am always right and that my children must do as I say … without ever thinking I was ever learning myself … flies in the face of living the truth. I am learning every day, along with my children.

It made me smile when my son said to me last week that he knows everything. When I replied that he has lots to learn, he said, ‘well, YOU know everything. You can teach me everything.’ I questioned him on that, too! To my baffled little boy, I explained that I’m learning along with him, and the whole fun in living life is to keep on learning, and that some philosophers have said that ‘when we stop learning, we die.’ His reply to me was, ‘yup. I already knew that.’ Bless!

One of our favourite tv series to watch together is Dinotopia, and a scene I personally love is where the people ride on the back of the Brachiosaurus as a mode of transport. When a leading character says that, actually the dinosaurs deserve no better than to be ordered around by the humans, he is corrected by the future Matriarch. She says, ‘on the contrary, humans can learn a lot from the dinosaurs – for example, we can learn humility‘. Putting aside our own pride, status, priorities, personal intentions and our own personal need to succeed, to help another travel their own personal path, no matter how self-deprecating it is, is true humility. And I feel it is something we are not generally taught to do in our modern society.

Instead many of us have been taught (and continue to be taught by each other, not at all deliberately but perhaps a tiny bit naively), to be defensive, ‘right’, critical of each other, labeling, unapologetic, power-seeking and proud. In typical daily life, we can be intolerant of each other, impatient, and we can really lack sensitivity and empathy in our daily quest to be ‘human doings’. Do, do and do some more, don’t let another person’s emotional needs slow us down, and give praise to ourselves time and time again for how much we accomplish by doing, doing, and doing some more. Feel eeeky? For me I feel stirred on the inside just reading this last paragraph – and yet it is the context of life for many people isn’t it.

Now I’ll tell a story of my own humility in the hope of sharing a lesson I learned. Once, when  my son started reflecting on a few incidents that had hurt him, and started crying while thinking about it, I immediately sighed and thought,’why does he do this? Why does he bring up things from the past and make himself cry?’ It was mood-dampening and I didn’t feel like having a teary conversation, seeing we were having a good day and on our way to the park to have more fun with friends. Thoughts ran through my head like, ‘he has such highs and lows, when he is high he is bursting with excitement and physically jiggles and wiggles, and then he has lows where he cries, maybe I should be worried, maybe he is wrong to do that, maybe I’m over evaluating, but maybe a health specialist would call it bipolar or anxiety or something…’ All the while I was admiring him for his honesty and in awe of his childhood innocence and expressiveness. Such conflicting feelings in a 10-minute space in time!

I urged him to cheer up and stop making himself sad thinking about it. He kept sobbing. Eventually I got cross and told him to cheer up. ‘Stop thinking about things that make you sad!’ I ordered. It was then, because he quickly went quiet and meekly said, ‘ok mummy’, that I realised my massive mistake.

Now I knew myself at this time. I was always thinking and reflecting on what happened to me yesterday, ten minutes ago, one year ago, twenty years ago, as a way to build my senses for what I like and don’t like in this world. I revisited events in my imagination and validated my feelings on the experience, and came to conclusions about how I’d deal with similar situations in future. We all do. As an adult I learned to do this in my mind or in civil conversations with others – and to control child-like expressive emotions like crying out loud – but I definitely do exactly the same thing in the ‘grown up way’. And yet I ordered my son to stop because as a parent, it was frustrating to not be able to control his mood.

It is very normal that when a child reaches age 4, and can communicate freely, that he starts to repeat what he has heard, seen, experienced, to validate what has happened and to learn (and validate his intuition) on whether it’s good or bad.

I felt uneasy with the way I had shut him down. I had just taught him to suppress his emotions, to ignore his need to validate the world and his place in it. I had taught him to follow my orders, and I had missed an opportunity to teach him that he is, actually, safe in his world. It was quiet in the car, but I pepped up. ‘I’m sorry,’ I said, with a quivery voice. I noticed how hard it can be to say sorry to a small child who depended on me being right. ‘It was wrong of me to tell you to stop feeling sad. You are entitled to feel sad, to talk and to cry. I’m here for you, and I’m listening.’ (This is, in fact, what I wish I had heard many times in my life – and this is how I would like to be spoken to now when I’m unsure if my feelings.) ‘I’m learning too,’ I said.

He was so grateful. He finished explaining what had upset him, I validated his experience and repeated his feelings back to him, and he cheered up.

And the lesson for both of us was that it’s ok to say ‘I’m learning, too,’ and to be honest, humble, even humiliated, because sometimes it’s the way to better connection, happiness, and love.

We are taught to say we are learning in schools, however schools focus on the left side (intellectual) side of the brain. We are taught less – if at all – to openly say we are learning emotionally… and to allow ourselves to study, test, review and develop concepts relating to our creativity, intuition, energetic connections, and heart-based thinking. This is why I am now passionately writing material for my books, specifically for increasing vibrational energies, and for claiming your power in your life. Stay tuned and please visit my pages often.

“When you are in power of your life, you  have no need to seek order and control over another’s life. Simple enjoyment and fulfillment is all that you seek.”  (Joanna Becker)

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Food and Nutrition, Self-healing and Wellness

Make-up-free May


Last year I had an adventure of sorts – an internal adventure. I survived one whole month without a smudge or spot of make-up.

Going without cosmetics for a month was a true challenge for me. This career-girl turned new mum, who was so accustomed to dressing up at the start of every day, now had a 5 minute void in front of the mirror every morning! Don’t get me wrong, I was never a big makeup wearer… just a little concealer, lip balm and mascara – but I certainly had to have my fix, my ‘preparation for the day’, my natural image unnaturally adjusted, to help me feel worthy of being a decent person and maintaining respect from my peers.

I loved my month of freedom!
Forcing myself to dress and leave the house with a different routine and using different techniques in presentation (different clothes and jewellery, for example), gave me opportunities to think and change habits for the better. I learned things about myself that I never would have had the chance to, had I carried on normally, wearing make-up, that month.

What happened to me?
I felt emotions, delved into my insecurities and inner beliefs, and had the chance to explore and change the respect I had for myself and my own identity. I had some very helpful and interesting conversations with friends and strangers. I also had a chance to see my true reflection and how damaged my body and skin had become from concealer and chemicals that I’d used in the past. I then saw my skin, teeth and eyes improve when I used alternative natural methods, and I had a great time trying natural home-made remedies, like essential oils and aloe-vera. It was a journey that I could only go on with myself, and the lessons were personal. I urge you to take yourself on this journey, too.

Some common reasons we wear make-up everyday are:

– to show that we take pride in our appearance
– to transform our identity
– to cover up scarring and imperfections
– to meet social expectations for tidy and attractive womanly style
– to look healthier than we actually are
-… (Feel free to comment below if you think of a different reason)

Don’t you agree that it’s ODD that women are taught to take pride in their appearance, and feel socially accepted, only AFTER they have decorated themselves and covered up their authentic image? Surely taking pride in our appearance means we can say, ‘I love me and I love who I am’, with or without make-up?

If like me, you have ever felt you “have to” cover up your skin, can I ask you gently what else are you in the habit of covering up, in order to be socially accepted? Are we being honest with ourselves? Physically, emotionally, spiritually, what can a daily make-up habit tell us about who we are and how we feel about ourselves? (Or maybe it’s just me who has deep and dark secrets to cover up, hey 🙂

As a side-note, if you search ‘No make-up’ in Google, you will be shocked at how we are taught to ridicule authentic image. Look at all the stories about celebrities. This kind of ridicule causes insecurity for women everywhere. As usual, the media has a lot to answer for.

Makeup-free May has arrived!
By the 20th day of this month, once again, I will have ditched the cosmetics to opt for the ultimate natural alternative – raw skin. Will you join me?

Those who do will not be not only liberating themselves, but giving others permission to do so. It’s a truly positive experience and the further this reaches the better. Collectively we will be improving self-worth of women and encouraging that we take pride in our true, perhaps fragile, but always unique and very special identities.

I am starting straight away.
First, I need to reverse the damage that wearing concealer (albeit a mineral healthy product) and not eating skin-nourishing foods has done to me in the last few months. My skin is terrible right now. Everyday from now, I’ll be having 2 fresh juices or smoothies per day (parsley and kale especially), cutting those last remaining toxins and refined sugars out of my diet (hello chia seeds and fresh vegetables), and asking myself what it is about my image that I’m struggling with right now (a daily meditation practice helps me find clarity and answers).

If you’re in Brisbane on the 17th May, make sure to come to HAPPY IS HEALTHY Day, where I will have a stall with books/DVDS and other good things to inspire, motivate and support you in pro-active wellness, including a DVD talking about image and skin wellness specifically. I’ll be presenting at 11am, and there’ll be dozens of other guest speakers and stalls with powerful, transformational mind/body wellness information to share. To find me, look for the stand called POSITIVE, HEALTHY, NATURALLY.

Join now
Let me know if you will join Makeup-Free May by replying to this thread or comment on the Facebook page. Up to and during this period, make sure you promote to your friends and family and colleagues that you are going without cosmetics for a GOOD CAUSE – to generate support for healthy skin, healthy body image and healthy minds. And invite as many people as you can to join in!

Have fun with it… I know I did last year and I will again this year. It’s a time to get creative with natural appearance and feel proud of your true self, and to see just how radiant you can be with healthy mind and diet too.

And if you’re feeling really brave, take a really raw selfie now so you have BEFORE and AFTER photos. I can guarantee the AFTER shots will be so much better, even if it’s just because of the way you feel.

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Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

That lady said my kids were wild and unruly!

This is what happened. I took my boys (4yo and 1yo) to the supermarket – very brave, I know. 4yo was superb, sitting in the trolley the whole time, rarely saying a word. 1yo was on foot, trotting backwards and forwards pointing his quirky little 1-finger point, waving, talking and charming. I grabbed them hot chicken winglets on the way in, dissapointed when I opened the box to find bright orange crumbed nuggets. Colours, additives, a big experience for any 1yo. Anyway he ate them up and got more and more excited and enthusiastic about running away from me.

I soon had a trolley full of nappy boxes, tinned tomatoes, pasta and seafood, and both boys were out on floor to walk. Payment done, supermarket visit successful! I visited the gourmet green grocer for our healthy whole food and the boys were pretty over it by now, both on foot and exploring in different directions. A lady in queue scoffed and waved her finger at my 4yo, who was walking laps of one aisle, singing to himself, and my 1yo in my arms wiggling and trying to get free. This is what she said:

“I don’t know why you young women don’t use harnesses these days. Back in my day all children were tied to their parents and they stayed with their parents at all times. None of this unruly, wild behaviour you see everywhere now.

She left and the check out assistant told me that the woman was a doctor.

Ok, so there are a million come-backs I’m now coming up with. I wouldn’t have called her an older lady before, but now she has put the idea in my head with all this ‘In my day’ talk. Let’s see, ‘in your day grocery shopping wasn’t so stimulating for children – with bright lights, toys, flashing LCD Screen advertisements, music, trolleys and escalators etc’, and, ‘in your day fresh hot food wasn’t tarnished with additives, colours, flavours like they are now, which we know is directly related to ADHD and behavioral issues,’ and, ‘Really? It’s a normal developmental phase for a 1yo to explore his environment through movement and touching, as you would know’, but I settled with…

“I can tell you where to stick it…”

No just kidding. I brushed her with a random reply, a laugh and with my cheeks a bit rosy, of course – as most of us do.

It’s a default reaction for all of us, when criticised, to start thinking and let the thoughts snowball. I went off to the car with my thoughts running over what she said. My physical reaction was to rummage through bags and grab sweet food to binge on. I felt tempted to snap at my 1yo for continuing to wriggle and scream, resisting that action knowing it was my rattled nerves driving the urge.

Unruly, wild behaviour.

And then I caught myself.

I have been taught how to recognise the ‘indicating’ physical symptoms of emotional issues that needs to be dealt with. I knew, then and there, that I was responding and dealing in the typical way I usually do and there must be something beneath the surface. Blushing and laughing – check. Binge eating sweets – check. Feeling frustrated with kids – check. Stuck in my own head and consumed in thought about all my possible come-backs – check. Grimace on my face – check. In a hurry to escape – check, check. Ok girl, it’s time to break this down.

In spiritual counseling we learn that if something somebody has said gets a reaction from you, it’s because it either:

(A) is something you feel is true and yet you aren’t acknowledging

(B) is something you would probably say or do yourself

So I had my two options to explore. I realised in this case, it was probably a bit of (A) and (B). So then the question – why would I be sensitive to this sort of thing, do I judge other parents and classify their kids as wild or unruly, and look at mine with this judgement, too? Well that’s a hard one – I guess I might in certain circumstances beneath the surface. So then the question – whose standards am I judging myself and others against? Are they my standards or something I was taught? And you probably already know the answer to this – I am judging myself according to high standards carried over from my own childhood experiences. Not necessarily my own personal standards.

After this it’s easy to move forward. I know I’m being hard on myself, and others, because I’m afraid of not being good enough or reaching a standard. That ‘old woman’ showed me what I need to let go of. A lot of the time instances like mine today, which are a really good reason to go and find a friend and have a whine or a vent on Facebook or blog, are the exact opportunities we need to become a happier and peaceful person.

Because we create our realities, and I brought that woman into my life today. Maybe I can wish for her, that one day, she will figure out why she has the need to criticise a younger mum and her beautiful children in the grocery store. But I’m pretty happy with what she has reminded me of today.

If you notice yourself repeatedly re-living incidents like this and having a whine, vent with friends, or you notice yourself often making ‘conversation about another person’ and you want to find peace and love yourself and everyone around you (believe me, it can be done), then you might like this website and everything there is to read.

Because once we deal with underlying emotional insecurities, they are no longer necessary in our lives and incidents like this, and people like this, just dissapear. It might seem more obvious to just ‘get over it and forget it’ – however repeating emotional insecurities can eventually change our physical body and result in ‘diagnosable’ conditions.

Healing and preventing future dis-ease is as simple as listening to your thoughts now.

I’ll leave you with advice by my inner wiser persona, specially given to me for this topic:

We can ask ourselves, “what has been said to us that was so bad? And what was so bad about that?” Then get deep into that feeling of what is so bad, let it be felt, and nurture the inner-child. – Joanna Becker 

As in my case, sometimes you just end up laughing! I mean, what is wild and unruly anyway?

“You are enough, and you are loved. You deserve to let this go.” – Joanna Becker 

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Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

The strength to be ‘individual’

img_4722If you have ever had one of those moments where you questioned yourself and your decisions surrounding your children’s wellbeing, I’ve been there before, too.

Mine was on the homeschooling subject, and not because I was thinking I should change my choice – I could see that my boys were thriving and were physically, intelligently and emotionally flourishing. Staying together everyday worked so fabulously well for us, and we were 100% happy without pre-school or daycare settings. The reason I questioned myself was because I remembered that I wasn’t not doing what most others were doing, and sometimes that fact alone really made me insecure, and question how I could possibly fit in within my social environment.

My whole perception of pre-school, along with many other accepted social norms, was objective and challenging. At the end of the day – research, facts and statistics aside – my perception on “pre-school and my family” was in support of my own intuition, which told me that (a) I was doing the right thing observing and responding to my children’s personal needs – their active and passive verbal and non-verbal requests – and (b) I was doing the right thing providing alternative (I’ll say superior just because I can 🙂 ) social and educational opportunities within our comfortable environment.

(Here is Master 4 who is free to run and play in the rain in our beautiful rainforest garden on weekdays)

So in conversation with others, our words could be limited and even, at times, fragile and uncomfortable. We knew our differences and loved each other regardless. Parenting is such an important role and no matter what, we respected each other, absolutely.

It’s tempting – in one of these hours of feeling insecure (and like a social misfit) – to give in to anxiety and get caught up in snow-ball thinking.

“I could start researching pre-schools. But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

“I could try to make new friends. But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

“I could debate with my ‘significant others’ to try to prove my points and get them on my side. (Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all on the same side, sometimes!) But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

“I could think about this topic all day, continually question myself, and let it take me away from the joys of the present. But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

(And who would want to be distracted from this present moment? Just look at Master 1 sloshing in the muddy puddles as the fog glides over us.)

If you want to refresh your techniques on handling mini-crisis events (and we have so many, as parents) and developing your ability to follow your intuition with confidence, that’s what I am here for. Feel free to contact me anytime.

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