Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Weekly Metaphysical Readings

13th January 2018 – Metaphysical Reading for The Real Food Tribe (Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food)

Welcome to this week’s reading by Joanna Becker, author, blogger, and healer (communication with spirits) for the Real Food Tribe Blog.

Exciting things are happening in the world right now with the enthusiasm of supporting local community workers and remembering to pay people what they deserve for the effort they put into their offerings. For example, there are local producers of all kinds of goods all over the world, and they are rapidly being chosen and favoured over larger corporations that commercialise their manufacturing of products – we all know them, large companies creating enormous scale quantities of products, food and otherwise, and making it difficult for locals and everyday people to compete and make a living for themselves.

This week we ask you to choose to support your local producers in whichever way you can. This is not to say that you cannot buy online or from businesses such as larger supermarkets at all – it is to simply open your eyes to who is working around you and the need they too have for supporting their family with their exceptional talent and skill for producing a particular service or product.

Who is it that you are living nearby to that is talented at making preserves, growing food, gardening, farming, even creating tools and materials, or servicing all these people, with their own personal effort? The reason we ask you to open your eyes to the energy that is in your local community, is because embracing relationships in your local community and truly honouring who is working hard around you, investing their effort and talents in this way, will reward you with a satisfying and empowering relationship both now and in the future.

Let your intuition guide you, simply ask for your angels and your intuition to allow you to see this week, those local community members who are offering their skill, talent and experience, to service your community – and if it’s possible, invite them into your world by trying out their products or services for a change.

Enjoy a wonder-full week and remember the world is changing, and so must you. Each day is a new day to be grateful for what has passed, to live in the moment, and take advantage of change so as to keep yourself fulfilled for a wonderful tomorrow and beyond.

Let love be your compass. 

Joanna Becker

© Copyright 2018. Joanna Becker is an Australian author, blogger and healer (communication with spirits) at The Real Food Tribe Blog website ( She has authored books on self-healing using internal dialogue with self and spirit, positive affirmations, meditation, and conscientious parenting. In 2018 Joanna Becker will be offering free channeled messages on the topic of nourishing the body with Real Food. In addition, you can join Joanna and her tribe in the private support page Real Food Tribe – Private Support on Facebook, click here to join:





Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Weekly Metaphysical Readings

2nd January 2018 – Metaphysical Reading for The Real Food Tribe (Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food)


Welcome to this week’s reading by Joanna Becker, author, blogger, and healer (communication with spirits) for the Real Food Tribe Blog. As you’re enjoying the first fresh days of the new year, and setting intentions and reflecting on what was great (and not so great) about the year passed, don’t forget to listen to your body and honour its very specific needs at the beginning of a new cycle.

The body’s seasons begin fresh every year: within your body’s internal biological clock, there is a re-birth occurring. So think of it like the beginning of Spring – a fresh time, waking up, setting intentions, spreading wings, tasting new things, trying new experiences with excitement and vigour, all while being aware that you are cared for, loved and safe and have a beautiful spiritual support system on call, anytime, within your own energetic field.

Let’s talk about which foods are best for your body at the time of year when you are waking from a tiring, effortful end of year, and ready to start a new chapter of your life time with improved happiness and success.

Cucumbers, are fresh and cooling, and light on the body to process. They are invigorating, and especially great for stimulating new thoughts and generating inspiration and enthusiasm.

Strawberries, a summer fruit, are a sweet treat that are enjoyed from frozen in smoothies or ice-crush drinks. They create a feeling of safety, love, nourishment and enjoyment in the life that it is now, presently.

Lettuce, a great food for summer, and great crisp energy for encouraging you to be light-footed, energetic and embracing new experiences. Easy to digest, nourishing with a good supply of water, easy on the tastebuds. This food is good for creating an energetic field of lightness, but also grounding, with structure and stability.

Sometimes during the early parts of this year you may feel like there is no way to improve on the situations you experienced last year. It is paramount that you monitor your language, that comes out of your mouth, and is passed through your brain in thoughts, and your heart in emotions, and improve on what you say. Thoughts are the key to your ultimate fulfilment. The sense of wonder that you will have in life, this year, will be generated from the words that you speak, think and feel. Words that will be especially helpful for you this year, in creating a safe and healthy home for yourself and your children, are:

  • “Let this food inspire us to be better versions of ourselves.”
  • “Especially now, I welcome this food into my body to nourish and enable healthful growth and support.”
  • “Yes, I am willing to improve my body’s health and am ready to try new foods.”
  • “Give me the strength, courage, discipline, and ambition to try what is ultimately good for me and can inspire my children to do what is good for them.”
  • “Thank you for the food I eat, the water I drink, the air I breathe, and nature I enjoy.”

It is of course helpful to print out phrases such as the above and include them on the dining table or breakfast bar, and involve the family in reading them aloud during meals.

Thank you for sharing a wonder-full 2017 with me and the Real Food Tribe Community.

You are loved more than you know! Be yourself, bless others and live your truth.

Let love be your compass.

© Copyright 2018. Joanna Becker is an Australian author, blogger and healer (communication with spirits) at The Real Food Tribe Blog website ( She has authored books on self-healing using internal dialogue with self and spirit, positive affirmations, meditation, and conscientious parenting. In 2018 Joanna Becker will be offering free channeled messages on the topic of nourishing the body with Real Food. In addition, you can join Joanna and her tribe in the private support page Real Food Tribe – Private Support on Facebook, click here to join:



Mammalian Meat Allergy (Alpha-Gal) – aligning yourself with the right tribe – and live with it successfully and happily

For a couple of years now I’ve had what I suspected was a “red-meat allergy”, from a paralysis tick bite. This is a growing concern especially on the coastal areas of NSW and QLD. There are new cases diagnosed every day, children included, so I wanted to share with you a little of what I’ve learned, so you can help yourself, or others, access good information should they ever be affected.

Firstly – if you’re ever bitten by a paralysis tick (and please teach your kids this!) – don’t try to remove it – don’t even touch it! Keep a “wart-off” product in your handbag/backpack and freeze it off so the paralysis tick cannot inject you with the “alpha-gal” protein, which it could have picked up by a recent feed (a cow, for example). If you don’t have access to the wart-off product, leave the tick in place until you can get to a chemist. Essential Oils are a little more risky as they can take a bit longer to work and the tick can still get irritated and inject you – I used essential oils and I still got the allergy – so please consider getting wart-off.

Secondly – if you are bitten by a paralysis tick, it’s not guaranteed you will become allergic to mammal meat products. This is just one form of a paralysis tick bite side-effect. So book a doctor appointment and have a blood test to check for “alpha-gal allergy”. You will also know if you suddenly start getting sick after eating. For me the symptoms were full-body tingles, tremors, heart palpitations, nausea like food-poisoning, urge to vomit but difficulty vomiting, sleepless nights with high anxiety, drop in blood pressure, urge to cry etc, pacing hallways etc. I mistook these symptoms for panic attacks. What I found worked for my “panic attacks” was vitamin C (4 mandarins did the trick!) or a vitamin C supplement, and an anti-histamine over time as the symptoms worsened. As they became worse again – I didn’t realise the foods I was eating were triggering allergy – I started using an asthma puffer occasionally to open my airways and calm me down, along with essential oils Sage, Lemon Grass, Frankincense, and Peppermint. I’ll always keep these first-aid tools with me now, but generally a state of calm, yoga, and deep diaphragmatic breathing is a really good preventative for the worse symptoms.

Thirdly – if you or someone else has alpha-gal allergy, don’t despair! It just takes time to get your mindset organised, for a change in diet and more diligence when eating out. I also recommend going to see an Allergy Specialist and checking the extent of the allergy. It can range from beef, to include all mammals, to even include milk and even milk-chocolate.

Fortunately for me during this time I was taking a whole-food powder in vegan-capsule, and vegan-shake. Juice Plus+ is all vegan. When I was first affected 2 years ago, as you might have heard me say on our recordings, Juice Plus+ “saved my life” when I didn’t know what was making me sick, because Juice Plus+ smoothies filled my belly up when I was both confused and weak! It was over 6 months before I was told by a friend about paralysis ticks. I hope that by writing this, you can possibly save time for a friend who is bitten and becomes sick.

Here are some practical solutions for shopping:

Alpha-gal is not “red-meat”. This is not “red-meat allergy” – and naming it that means you can make the same mistake I did and keep eating prosciutto and cheese for the next 2 years!  Alpha-gal is all mammals, even including kangaroo, pork, lamb – any animal born with live young. That means the occasional bacon for Sunday breakfast, or ham sandwiches on the run, or pork gyoza, are out. It may even include vegetarian spring-rolls, if they are cooked in the same deep-fried pan as meat spring rolls.

It is also a little tricky if you already follow a vegetarian diet – vegetarianism is ommitting meat and is definitely the closet diet to meat allergy – but sometimes vegetarian foods are cooked with meat (spring roll example above). Just take a little bit of extra caution – take a look at the cooking areas, or read labels. I used to eat mostly vegetarian, but simply didn’t realise some ingredients included mammal products, such as cheese “rennet”.

These are the products to look out for:

  • Cheese (rennet): buy the vegetarian option, which is made with animal-free rennet.
  • Lollies (many different kinds): only eat vegetarian because a lot of lollies are made with gelatine.
  • Thickened Cream, Sour Cream, and some Yoghurts: they often have gelatine. Read ingredients and buy pure cream and pot-set yoghurt. Be careful when eating out at parties or restaurants, as the cakes on offer probably have cream or jelly.
  • Flavoured meals, sauces and condiments: Beef stocks may be used in packaged foods. Choose vegetarian, and just make sure to read the ingredients.
  • Bakery foods: Pizza breads, for example, have bacon, and ham.
  • Cheesecakes: save the experience for when you can buy or make a beautiful raw-vegan!  I have a great recipe.

If you have kids? Don’t be like me and eat their left-overs! Or lick your fingers after preparing their meals. That too, was triggering mild reactions for me.

Restaurants & Cafes: You can have a quick chat with the chef when you arrive to check that vegetarian options on the menu definitely haven’t come into contact with beef stock or cooked in the same grill-pan as bacon, for example. Also you can ask to omit cheese. I find chefs and staff so helpful and willing to accommodate – sometimes I ring ahead and let them know and talk about the menu options.

Platters being served at big events: know what you’re eating before you eat it. Take your own foods as a precaution. At our recent conference I made myself unwell eating these delicious parcels that had pork in them …  I’d say it was worth it – but it really wasn’t, as I had to leave and missed the event!

The other thing to be weary of, which snuck up on me, is Iron Deficiency. I became iron deficient – and that was not a pleasant 2-3 months. Iron supplementation is often recommended for women, and I recommend it for mammalian meat allergy. Especially while you learn a new vegetarian diet. Especially if you are in child-birthing years with extra blood loss, from birth or miscarriage. I have continued to have my JP+ shakes, which have a good amount of iron. And I know that later on, when the diet becomes more normal and my health is strong and resilient, and my immune system is strong again, the extra supplementation can be taken out.

Supplementation from the chemist. Watch out for gelatine capsules and other mammal ingredients. Ring the company and ask if their vitamins, probiotics are vegetarian. I have found that most of Ethical Nutrients is vegetarian, which is great for probiotics and iron and vitamin B, and have found a favourite list of “safe” supplements. My Naturopath, and my Chemist, are more than willing to call the companies before they sell me their products. Propolis was a favourite supplement of mine. However my brand had gelatine – so it’s worth ringing the company for a quick chat, they are always helpful. I have previously not recommended supplementation from the chemist, but with an allergy, the body can get very run down and the immune system weak. So supplementation and chinese herbs have helped me get back on my feet, along with a varied and heathy diet.

This is why I love our Real Food Tribe community. It is already for the healthy-minded person – but when something totally weird and unexpected pops up, this community is simply a God-Send because pretty-much EVERYTHING in our pages, is safe. I’ve always loved the vegetarian options in this program, and even more so now.

As I think of more examples that may be helpful, I’ll add them to this list over time. I just wanted to raise a little awareness for you, in case a child you know, or an adult you know, is affected – you can easily support them and give them the encouragement that they need. Anxiety, and stress, is often more debilitating than any condition so calming language, hugs and peaceful time together is key.

Please also don’t underestimate the effect of taking meat out of your diet, if you are not used to being a vegetarian. Your body will adapt over time, but it feels the change. I know my body is missing certain foods and I make sure, nowadays, that everyday, I plan ahead to balance each and every meal. It’s NOT ok to be on the run and forget to plan your meals. And it’s NOT ok to gulp your food down in a hurry and create other digestive issues! Don’t we all do that? 🙂 I feel like this is a precious time to pay extra attention to yourself, because it takes a certain level of discipline and focus to manage an allergy, meal-by-meal, on a daily basis. The last thing we need is other digestive issues or stress placing extra pressures on the beautiful body.

Between salmon, seafood and fish, beans, grains, and the list goes on, there are plenty of ways to keep the body nourished. I’ve added foods back in, that I took out – such as bread, and sugar, to fill me up and ensure I eat. It’s better to eat something than not at all! But I do feel like my body does miss meat, and that’s why I chose to eat it (albeit sparingly) for all my adult years. Often times people associate a tick-bite with Lymes Disease. I can’t comment too much except to say that, in my case, mammalian meat allergy triggered a whole stream of health challenges, not Lymes related, but related to  having taken meat out of my diet. Personally, I liked to eat a little meat and it gave me energy and strength. I know it’s not the same for many people and they feel better without meat – on the whole, I do. But a little bit every now and then was good too.

Stress Relief techniques and associating with like-minded people, such as what we have here in our tribe, and watching healthy videos such as Overfed and UnderNourished (and many more, check out the Gaia app) are fantastic. They will give you the heart-felt support you need that vegetarianism is going to be ok, if you weren’t in that full mindset before.

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Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Honesty and lessons in humility through parenting

img_4717‘It’s ok, mum. You’re learning. So am I.’  – My Little One, 4 years old.

I tell my little boy that I’m learning how to be the most beautiful happy version of me, in the same way that he is learning how to be his best, most beautiful version of himself, and that we are both learning how to be caring, kind and helpful to one another. ‘We are both learning how to live happily with each other,’ I say.

Like most other people I know, as a child I was taught to do everything adults told me without question. Not only did this teach me to become the adult that must always be right, but I lived years of insecurity, compromised self-identity and self-confidence. I learned that by doing what an adult told me and repeating what an adult taught me, or by copying the behavior of the respected adults around me, I was good, acceptable, loveable and worthy. Weren’t we all?

Adults rarely admit they have made a mistake. That would jeopardize their authority status.

I’ve never been comfortable with an authority role in my own parent-child relationship. I have chosen to live truthfully. The truth is: I have never experienced any particular moment before. My moments aren’t any more special, or superior, than my children’s moments. Every moment is unique and wonderful and is an experience that can’t be repeated exactly. I am grateful for every single moment. I am a learning parent, and I will be for every future moment.

To act like I’m not learning, and to think I’m unable to change my position on a parenting issue, is contrary to nature. We are all learning every day, and we are all the scientists of our own lives. We are here to explore, learn, experience and reach full empowerment, and to (bit-by-bit) discover how to live the happiest, most fulfilling life that we can possibly create with our very own power.

So to act like I am always right and that my children must do as I say … without ever thinking I was ever learning myself … flies in the face of living the truth. I am learning every day, along with my children.

It made me smile when my son said to me last week that he knows everything. When I replied that he has lots to learn, he said, ‘well, YOU know everything. You can teach me everything.’ I questioned him on that, too! To my baffled little boy, I explained that I’m learning along with him, and the whole fun in living life is to keep on learning, and that some philosophers have said that ‘when we stop learning, we die.’ His reply to me was, ‘yup. I already knew that.’ Bless!

One of our favourite tv series to watch together is Dinotopia, and a scene I personally love is where the people ride on the back of the Brachiosaurus as a mode of transport. When a leading character says that, actually the dinosaurs deserve no better than to be ordered around by the humans, he is corrected by the future Matriarch. She says, ‘on the contrary, humans can learn a lot from the dinosaurs – for example, we can learn humility‘. Putting aside our own pride, status, priorities, personal intentions and our own personal need to succeed, to help another travel their own personal path, no matter how self-deprecating it is, is true humility. And I feel it is something we are not generally taught to do in our modern society.

Instead many of us have been taught (and continue to be taught by each other, not at all deliberately but perhaps a tiny bit naively), to be defensive, ‘right’, critical of each other, labeling, unapologetic, power-seeking and proud. In typical daily life, we can be intolerant of each other, impatient, and we can really lack sensitivity and empathy in our daily quest to be ‘human doings’. Do, do and do some more, don’t let another person’s emotional needs slow us down, and give praise to ourselves time and time again for how much we accomplish by doing, doing, and doing some more. Feel eeeky? For me I feel stirred on the inside just reading this last paragraph – and yet it is the context of life for many people isn’t it.

Now I’ll tell a story of my own humility in the hope of sharing a lesson I learned. Once, when  my son started reflecting on a few incidents that had hurt him, and started crying while thinking about it, I immediately sighed and thought,’why does he do this? Why does he bring up things from the past and make himself cry?’ It was mood-dampening and I didn’t feel like having a teary conversation, seeing we were having a good day and on our way to the park to have more fun with friends. Thoughts ran through my head like, ‘he has such highs and lows, when he is high he is bursting with excitement and physically jiggles and wiggles, and then he has lows where he cries, maybe I should be worried, maybe he is wrong to do that, maybe I’m over evaluating, but maybe a health specialist would call it bipolar or anxiety or something…’ All the while I was admiring him for his honesty and in awe of his childhood innocence and expressiveness. Such conflicting feelings in a 10-minute space in time!

I urged him to cheer up and stop making himself sad thinking about it. He kept sobbing. Eventually I got cross and told him to cheer up. ‘Stop thinking about things that make you sad!’ I ordered. It was then, because he quickly went quiet and meekly said, ‘ok mummy’, that I realised my massive mistake.

Now I knew myself at this time. I was always thinking and reflecting on what happened to me yesterday, ten minutes ago, one year ago, twenty years ago, as a way to build my senses for what I like and don’t like in this world. I revisited events in my imagination and validated my feelings on the experience, and came to conclusions about how I’d deal with similar situations in future. We all do. As an adult I learned to do this in my mind or in civil conversations with others – and to control child-like expressive emotions like crying out loud – but I definitely do exactly the same thing in the ‘grown up way’. And yet I ordered my son to stop because as a parent, it was frustrating to not be able to control his mood.

It is very normal that when a child reaches age 4, and can communicate freely, that he starts to repeat what he has heard, seen, experienced, to validate what has happened and to learn (and validate his intuition) on whether it’s good or bad.

I felt uneasy with the way I had shut him down. I had just taught him to suppress his emotions, to ignore his need to validate the world and his place in it. I had taught him to follow my orders, and I had missed an opportunity to teach him that he is, actually, safe in his world. It was quiet in the car, but I pepped up. ‘I’m sorry,’ I said, with a quivery voice. I noticed how hard it can be to say sorry to a small child who depended on me being right. ‘It was wrong of me to tell you to stop feeling sad. You are entitled to feel sad, to talk and to cry. I’m here for you, and I’m listening.’ (This is, in fact, what I wish I had heard many times in my life – and this is how I would like to be spoken to now when I’m unsure if my feelings.) ‘I’m learning too,’ I said.

He was so grateful. He finished explaining what had upset him, I validated his experience and repeated his feelings back to him, and he cheered up.

And the lesson for both of us was that it’s ok to say ‘I’m learning, too,’ and to be honest, humble, even humiliated, because sometimes it’s the way to better connection, happiness, and love.

We are taught to say we are learning in schools, however schools focus on the left side (intellectual) side of the brain. We are taught less – if at all – to openly say we are learning emotionally… and to allow ourselves to study, test, review and develop concepts relating to our creativity, intuition, energetic connections, and heart-based thinking. This is why I am now passionately writing material for my books, specifically for increasing vibrational energies, and for claiming your power in your life. Stay tuned and please visit my pages often.

“When you are in power of your life, you  have no need to seek order and control over another’s life. Simple enjoyment and fulfillment is all that you seek.”  (Joanna Becker)

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Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Uncategorized

The mum who had a fault and shared it.

Healthy_new_yearThousands of children around Australia are returning to school this week. It’s a time of fresh beginnings, of anxiety, excitement, new friendships and relationships – and not only for the children, because parents are equally feeling the mixed bag of emotions.

Parents worry about their children, mostly. But what about ourselves? Do we ever think about the learning experiences we will have publicly, outside of our comfort zones, that will shape us and create our futures?

I became a mum four years ago. I’ve since learned how to be accountable for my faults, my  reality, and ultimately – my happiness. I’m sharing the lot.

Overcoming chronic anxiety two years ago opened my eyes to hidden signs and symptoms of unhappy and UN-empowered mums, who were brushing off bad moods or poor health as just ‘bad days’. With my inspired hand, I started writing day and night about the responsibility we have to ourselves to heal from the inside out, and be free of anxiety and stress (even if we don’t believe anxiety or stress is present in our life).

Now I’m aware that I only have to ask for help, or visualise the outcome that I want, to bring myself back to an empowered mindset. I can recognise when my manifestations turn into reality. I know every moment is perfect and is paving the way for the next perfect moment. I know how powerful I am.

I’m not one of those people that brushes bad moods off as ‘just a bad day’. I know, through my experiences over the past few years, that little thoughts can reveal big emotions that are impacting on life in big ways. And I enjoy exploring.

I want to share what I am learning, and have learned, with you.

I’m a learning mum. I’m a learning wife. I’m a learning house-keeper. I’m a learning woman. I’m a learning human being.

Via this blog and my books, I’m posting what I’m learning every day to connect with other parents, and to validate that they are not alone if they feel or experience the same range of emotions that I do, as a natural and intuitive person and parent, and as someone who possibly (just putting it out there) experiences anxiety as an early parent.

I blog and share my experiences with you, at the same time exposing myself as an everyday, time-pressed, exhausted, house-wife and mum who has fairly high expectations of myself (expectations that, like many, have their roots in anxiety about control and safety). I want to relate and learn from other mums and I want to convert unhelpful, negative energy to powerful, rewarding, positive energy.

How my writing can help.

I choose to see all of my experiences that frustrate, challenge, sadden, infuriate, or weaken me, as opportunities to learn and grow and improve my perception of life, the way I live, and my experience as a parent.

2014 is a year for being real.

I’m going to start the year by being ok with being me … the inspired part as well as the very human part that needs nurturing from the inside-out. I wonder how many other parents can be REAL WITH ME this year?

Will you accept yourself – with all your faults – as perfect and perfectly lovable? Will you recognise that ‘bad days’ are a great opportunity to do some digging and reflection on emotions making big impacts on your life? Will you stop worrying about what other people think, and do some inner work to change for a better life experience?

As usual I feel just like a child that is starting first day at school, who will make mistakes in front of the school room many times throughout the year. And I feel good about it because by now I know the lessons are well worth the experience.

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Parenting Ideas, Uncategorized

Steiner, Montessori and Your Child

Montessori_educationI’m certainly not an expert when it comes to describing methods of teaching various education philosophies. But it’s an area that interests me and I’m learning quickly … so many people are asking me what the difference is between Montessori and Steiner. If you don’t know anything and are looking for a basic parent’s-view explanation, this blog is for you.

I’ll start by saying that Montessori seems to be quite serious in focus, in comparison to Steiner’s Waldorf (if you hear of Waldorf, it is the education philosophy and technique taught by Rudolf Steiner). Steiner is for the whole child with an emphasis on earth and imagination, where Montessori is for little minds who want to be empowered – to learn and develop useful skills, and even mimic adult activities in a smaller setting.

Montessori and Steiner have their similarities in that they are both child-led, individualised, gentle experiences. They both encourage natural learning and are perfect for Natural Learners.

Rudolf Steiner believed that children can be left to be children, up until the age of 7. He encouraged that they be free to use their imagination and make-believe, play, explore physically, emotionally and spiritually, and most of all, creatively. His schooling program involved rhythm and routine, group activities in 20-30 minute blocks, singing and gentle movements, ceremonies, celebrations of the seasons, and gross-motor and creative (hand making) activities and interactions with the real world, i.e., earth and its creations.

Embracing that the foundations for reading and learning begin with listening and interacting in everyday life, Steiner schools don’t introduce formal curriculum for learning to read and write until age seven. This is on the premise that learning to read and write on paper will distract the child from developing their gross motor skills fully, and will also affect their development emotionally, spiritually and creatively, which are the most essential skills to develop before age 7. At age 7, some Steiner schools have a concentrated 6-week literacy program that children respond exceptionally well, and usually the children can read/write even better than their non-Steiner peers. This is because they have developed so completely in all other areas, that the words, sounds and visual characters, and ability to write and draw, comes easily and naturally.

Maria Montessori developed her schooling system for children who had difficulties learning in a large group, and found that most young minds were yearning to learn and be challenged. She felt that children must learn for the sake of ‘now’ and for fully exploring and enjoying the present day – not learning for the sake of the future and what is next to come (I love this aspect).

Montessori schools focus on taking advantage of the child’s early years because the mind learns so readily and productively in this time. By allowing the child to work at their own height with materials created for their special little size, we can stimulate their current psychological and physiological abilities, and the child can easily learn and grow and advance to more difficult challenges – when they are interested and ready to advance.

I personally found that my son started to need the challenges that Montessori presented at age 3. Without the focus, individualised activities and the challenging tasks, he resorts to hyperactivity and detachment from his environment, and he started to use his energy in other obstructive ways, such as jumping on furniture and snatching from me to get attention.

But I only give him the Montessori experience 1-2 days per week for small periods – that is, as long as he is clear in focus and is interested. I feel it is extremely important to put imagination, creativity, music, candle-type ceremonies, bread-making, nature-walks, crafts, outside play and story-times, with my company, guidance and friendship, first. So Steiner influences 70% of our week – Montessori the remaining 30%.

I hope this has helped you! For those who know more than I do (I’m sure there are thousands of practised Steiner and Montessori parents around Australia) please give me feedback on how you have liked Steiner and Montessori and what you have loved most.

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We’re only human? No, we’re better than that.

img_4730One thing we all need to deal with occasionally is the insecurity we have as a result of a particular childhood or teenage experience. There’s one lesson I learned today from battling with my insecurity and it’s this: No matter what happened in my childhood that affected me, helped create the belief systems I have about myself and the world, and shaped me into the person I am, something else happened to somebody else that did exactly the same thing. And it will happen for every child, forever.

After a day of talking and writing to understand my insecurity, I’ve realised that who I am now is what is most important. If that particular issue hadn’t existed in my childhood, something else would have.

Dealing with this particular issue was made worse by the feeling that it was being inflicted upon me at the time on purpose. That even while knowing it was hurting me, it was done again and again – and that the person doing it didn’t care about me enough to stop what they were doing.

Looking back now I can see that the issue had nothing to do with me. It wasn’t directed towards me. I made it a part of my life story, because it needed to be, so it could create the reality I would live. Maybe the future was telling me to make it a apart of my life story because it would need it for later. I wouldn’t change a thing about my present life, now. I wouldn’t jeopardise my present life by wishing that my past was different, either.

What I’ve realised is this: the incidents we all have in our childhood, shape the child and their life-path that they are supposed to travel. They have chosen us as parents, just like I chose my parents and love them unconditionally for every aspect of them and their uniqueness. My parents made up for any small issue a million times by being the exceptional parents they were, in ways other children didn’t get to experience.

My experiences were completely unique to my life. What an exceptional privilege.

I’m talking to myself here as much as I’m talking to anyone else who reads this: “Go easy on yourself, when it comes to berating yourself for the occasional thing you do that’s not in line with your parenting style. There will definitely be a small issue that your child looks back on that they feel hurt by. But it is overpowered by the greatness of your love and your everyday efforts to raise them safely.”

I never agree when others say, ‘We are only human,’ because I don’t believe we ARE ONLY human, anymore. I like to say, instead, ‘We are incredibly human.’ All that comes with this experience of human life is a unique and remarkable blessing.

We are human, we are perfect, and we are enough.

We are respected, we are loved, and we are safe.

We are divine, we are glorious, and we are love.

– copyright, Joanna Becker. Contact for permission to reproduce.

Self-healing and Wellness

Happy to be happy!

It’s common for friends to exclaim that this little boy, my son of 7 months, has pure joy in his face. Wouldn’t it be great if we all had such ready, joyful smiles!

If I were to ask you how you are, could you answer like this? ‘Brilliant! I am fantastic!’

Maybe it is not the truth. Would you say it anyway, even if it meant you would be telling a lie?

When we are not well, or we have a pain somewhere in our body, or we are not sleeping well at night (and let’s face it, we can all benefit from a better night sleep), we can get into a comforting routine of talking about it regularly – especially if it is a recurring or ongoing problem.

We are aware in ourselves that we are not 100%, and sometimes we also want our friends or family to be aware of what’s happening. Or we are completely distracted by the issue and we can’t switch off (perhaps we don’t allow ourselves to).

We all know that as we get older we don’t allow ourselves to feel joy as readily as children. We make a non-verbal commitment with ourselves to not live in the present moment – to be always thinking, worrying, reflecting, analyzing, evaluating, or feeling guilty for not being enough and doing more.

Of course, most physical unhealthiness is caused by emotional unhealthiness or dis-ease.

To get better, the first thing we usually focus on is exploring and resolving why we are sick, in pain, or not sleeping well on a physical level. We apply ‘topical’ pain-relief and use solutions that give us immediate physical relief.

There is another thing we can do to get better for a longer term – it is a bit more awkward to acknowledge and is something we don’t focus on enough. It involves exploring and resolving your emotional need for being unwell and understanding your emotional need to talk about it.

Do you want to believe yourself that you are not 100%?
– Why?
– What will you gain, what will you not be able to do, what will you have to do instead?
– How does being unwell, in pain, or sleep deprived, change your life in a GOOD way?

Do you want others to believe you are not 100%, and if so – why?
– What will you gain if others are sympathetic and are treating you carefully?
– Will they expect less of you, give you more, make special plans and allowances for you?
– What would happen if you told them you were brilliant?

Answering these questions can help you to figure out your underlying emotional need for attracting the recurring/ongoing illness, pain or sleep trouble and to feel more at ease.

Self-healing to live stronger
Naturally happier life is easy when you decide to take ownership of your health and you feel empowered to heal yourself. I have written several articles on self-healing and empowered thinking – specially written for parents – and they are available for FREE in our wellness program.

Once you know how to find and address the reason for becoming unwell and talking about it with others, you will free yourself of repetitive sickness/sleep deprivation as you can heal yourself.

Imagine if you felt empowered and your child learned from your example how to self-heal, too. It would be fantastic to hear young children answer, ‘Brilliant,’ and to smile this enthusiastically all the way into their adult years.

Children are born with a very strong link between emotional and physical health and are exceptional at manifesting and creating their life based on their emotions. We can help them hold onto this skill that they bring into their new life. I believe parents can nurture this exceptional trait by acknowledging the link between their child’s emotions and their physical health, and even learn from it.

How to apply this powerful message for our children’s health
Learning how to open your mind to emotional needs for becoming unwell will help you identify why your child is becoming unwell. Even though our children may not be able to explain what is troubling them emotionally, you can use a different set of questions in a calm and loving environment to help them understand their own body’s reactions.

I asked my son why he had a sore foot, a complaint he repeatedly mentioned, and he answered that he twisted it. He became animated while he explained exactly how he did it.

We delved deeper into what he couldn’t do because of this sore foot, and I gently asked him where he didn’t want to go. We eventually realized he was afraid of the kinder gym because of the hard tasks he was being asked to do.

I already knew he was out of his comfort zone from his changed personality at kinder gym, even though he had been trying his very best. The continuous talk of kinder gym at home resulted in several accidents involving his feet and legs.

This was 6 weeks ago. We cancelled kinder gym and his ‘alternate personality’ and sore legs and the accidents causing them have been gone since.

This is not a far-stretch of the imagination. The guidance that I receive from my inner voice has helped me time and time again to understand the emotional trauma my son is going through, that creates physical problems such as leg injury, recurring colds, eczema and other injuries.

It is plausible that children suffer from continual viruses, ear-infections and disturbed sleep because they have an emotional need for the condition, and they need the changes that come about because of the condition. A simple emotional and physical need of a child is to rest and grow. Continual viruses could be your child’s way of expressing this need. Keeping the number of hours at playgroups limited to a few hours is healthiest.

By learning the above techniques, we have been been able to maintain better health overall. And this is better for the whole family.

The universe listens to all our thoughts and words and feels the energy, and the universe delivers more of the same. Brilliance is an (obviously) ideal feeling, wouldn’t you say?

– copyright, Joanna Becker. Contact for permission to reproduce.

Parenting Ideas

Little adults and their parents

When little toddlers mature into little boys and girls it becomes easier to expect more of them and we find ourselves speaking to them in ways we never used to.

We might expect them to:
– understand consequences
– recognize hazards and dangers
– always be kind and gentle, courteous and polite to others
– be decisive, capable, reasonable, and sensible
– understand the difference between strangers and friends
– read relationships and personalities and know what is appropriate behaviour and language
– respect the order and cleanliness of the house

If the above sounds too theoretical and like it doesn’t apply – think about these questions:

1. Have you become frustrated with your son for changing his mind about what he wants for breakfast?
2. Did you impulsively yell at your daughter when she snatched a toy off a friend?
3. Did you get angry at your son when he did something after you told him it wasn’t safe?
4. Did you raise your voice or yell when your daughter started pulling Tupperware out of the cupboard in a mess?

All of these situations sound fair and like good cause for a parent to get frustrated.

Staying in a calm frame of mind and parenting gently can be hard, particularly when there is tense energy in the environment.

Our idea for you – the parent – is to TRANSFORM the energy into a positive energy you can work with.

This takes a little bit of sacrifice, as you will need to slow down a bit.

You might be a busy person, be mentally tired after work, be physically exhausted. You might have a million things on your mind.

We are all these things at least 2-4 times per day. The easy thing to do when you feel this way is to leave your young children alone and call out to them (scold, discipline) from a distance.

When you do this, your child does NOT feel a change in energy. The energy becomes more agitated and the tension is amplified. They may stop for a moment when they hear your voice – and then carry on to do the same thing seconds later. The same energy is still in motion. You may resort to being rough (verbally or physically) to ‘make your child stop and listen’.

The way you handle the situation, and your relationship with your youngster, is defined in these little moments. Memories are created at these times just as much (if not more) as the moments you:

1. Cuddle up to read a story together before bed
2. Give a piggy-back ride while making silly sounds and laughing together
3. Work together in the kitchen to make a special meal
4. Kiss and soothe a sore spot after a little accident

For little children who do something ‘wrong’ (in our eyes, not theirs), a lecture or hard discipline can overpower the lesson in the event. For example, you may be worried because your son has choked on food after eating too fast and you immediately lecture and get cross. Because children are highly emotional little beings, your anger will stay in their memory more than the message about eating food slowly to prevent further choking. If this kind of parenting response happens regularly – your child will remember your anger and disapproval more than many important lessons.

You need to make a choice about whether you want to take a few extra minutes, several times per day to create and maintain your beautiful relationship. It is worth the effort to slow down and practice transforming energy and educating your child in every opportunity.

In each of the above situations, you could try the following:

1. Have you become frustrated with your son for changing his mind about what he wants for breakfast?
Move closer to him, sit down and calmly acknowledge what he is saying. Transform the energy to a calm, quiet, discussion. Ask him to help you prepare the breakfast he wants. ‘I understand that you don’t feel like eating this. I’d like to hear your idea and to help you, sweetheart. Can you tell me what healthy food you are thinking of?’
2. Did you impulsively yell at your daughter when she snatched a toy off a friend?
Move into your child’s environment and get down on your knees. Transform the energy by gently taking her hand and saying her name, establishing eye contact, and waiting. Explain calmly how the incident is not ok and what your child can do instead. Ask her to practice the better alternative.
3. Did you get angry at your son when he did something after you told him it wasn’t safe?
Move into your child’s environment and transform the busy energy to a waiting energy. Relax and stay with him until the hazard is gone, or the urge to act dangerously has passed. Explain the situation, and tell him that you are there to help him be safe. Help him with the safe alternative.
4. Did you raise your voice or yell when your daughter started pulling Tupperware out of the cupboard in a mess?
Move into your child’s environment, get down on your knees, and be silent. Make a point of calmly looking at the mess that is being created. Be friendly and smile. When your child’s energy has transformed and she is calm and curious, ask gently what she is wanting to do. Then offer to help her, and discuss how you will do it, starting with packing away the Tupperware together. Ask her to talk about her ideas with you first in future.

A little bit of patience and transforming energy to calm, helpful, gentle and friendly energy will improve your day as well as your child’s. It can take a little practice and it helps if both parents have the same approach and support each other – when one parent is weak, the other can be strong and step in to help (because we all need a break at times).

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Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Words to Inspire

Changing perspective using coloured lens

Ever noticed how what we expect almost ALWAYS comes true? How many times do we say, ‘I knew it!’ Or ‘I knew that would happen!’

Expectations are a lens that we see life through. It is so incredibly easy to become aware of your lens and take it off, replace it with a different colour. Try a different attitude, a different expectation. Go for positivity.

Teach your kids by example that your lens is full of light and love. Pick a colour, talk about it together!

Be positive and when you catch yourself expecting the worst and being negative in front of your kids, exclaim! Catch yourself out.

Change your lens to your colour of light and love and expect the best. SMILE.

Let your children see how easy it is to change our lives, just by changing our expectations.

– Parenting Energy