Activities for Kids, Parenting Ideas

New book release! Max’s Bright Fly … with the magic of making wishes đŸŒˆ

Welcoming this little dude to the world today! 

You can now buy my new book, Max’s Bright Fly with me. I’ve ordered the VERY FIRST đŸ„‡ copy for Max, for his 5th birthday 🎁. Don’t tell him đŸ€Ł
If you believe in the Law of Attraction, and want to help your children understand how it works, this book is definitely for you! If you don’t know anything about the Law Of Attraction, then this book is definitely for you too… learn along with your kids as you turn the pages 📗 I’m really happy I have shared this special message in a colourful children’s book. This book is all about having a great experience in life – living it to the fullest 🙌

You can read all about it by visiting the  shop tab here on this page, or on, you will be able to add it straight into your shopping basket, or link through to the Ebook version on Amazon (if iPad is your thing).
Not only does this book feature a brightly illustrated characters and farm setting, but with its messages of finding love in your heart, spreading kindness, and making wishes for your own life and watching your own magic unfold – the law of attraction for kids in an easy, readable, and enjoyable format – this book is sure to take pride of place in your bookshelf and be a favourite to read at bedtime.

Also great for preschools, childcare and playgroups. This is a large-format brightly illustrated children’s picture book, written in rhyme, with plenty of opportunity to engage children and start conversations about their own experiences in life. 
More images coming once I have the hardcopy in my hands. Can’t wait! 

Activities for Kids, Food and Nutrition, Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Playing the Traffic Light Game + teaching your kids about Life Food vs. Labelled Food

We live in an awesome time, with a super-intelligent society and more resources and facilities than ever before. Our parents lived in times of massive industrial/commercial growth with new products and advances in advertising, packaging and marketing through technology. To our parents, new products on the supermarket shelves were a reason to be excited!

Somewhere along the line, however, we awesome people generally stopped questioning how food was being made and if it was healthy. Supermarkets, which were at first an exciting novelty, became routine and an integral way of life. We started to take packaged food for granted. And children of this generation learned supermarket shopping as the only way. Many of us are still consciously and sub-consciously influenced by advertisers and marketers, and have not the time to question everything.

Trying to educate us are medical experts, nutritionists, naturopaths, social workers, and so on, who encourage us to take on a certain diet or purchase certain food groups and supplements to benefit our health. There are charts and diagrams, tables and lists, of exactly what is in each food, and calculations for us to estimate our daily intake of certain food groups.

When it comes to feeding a family, counting food groups and calculating ‘recommended dietary intake’ is confusing, difficult to teach children, and is hard to live with. And it has possibly created an unhealthy and complicated view of what it really is to be healthy.

That’s why I love this game and love sharing it with parents who want some simple techniques! I believe this game is a healthier approach than label-reading.

Parenting Energy Life Food Fun a simple way to change the way you and your children think about eating. In this approach everything is good in abundance and everything is recommended. If it’s Life Food, it’s good to eat.

We have always had fun with our Food-Life-Fun game at home.

Why you might like this game?
1. You are passionate about creating and sharing ways of feeding our body in ways that honour the body’s natural, organic functions.
2. You respect the earth and its natural ways of providing us with an edible habitat.
3. You are enthusiastic and committed to making sure your kids eat extra servings of real, healthy, beneficial food.

What is Life Food?

Life Food is anything that is as close to its original life form as physically possible. It can be grown and produced in your home or by a neighbor – in a metaphorical sense. For example, fresh seasonal produce, free-range animal products, wheat, grains, legumes, etc – anything that can be grown and produced within a family or community environment and you can see the original food in your kitchen. This also includes home-made preserves, sauces, breads, seasonings, juices, milks, etc, or other creative ways of using Life Foods. We can buy plenty of Life Foods in the supermarket so long as we shop in the fresh-food aisles.

But Labelled Food is sold in a package and may be something you could never independently produce, due to the complicated production processes – or it may be an original Life Food that has had something added to it that couldn’t be added at home. The less the Life Food is altered, the healthier it is for your family to eat.

We have made it easy to get on the right road with Life-Food-Fun. 


With Life-Food-Fun, you simply play a game with the food that’s available and have a little fun talking about it.

Imagine a set of traffic lights. Red is stop, orange is proceed with caution or stop if possible, and red is stop. From a very young age children can learn and associate actions with these colours, and so we use these colours for Life-Food-Fun.

Life Foods are the green light. You can exclaim to your kids: “Go! Eat as much as you like! Healthy! Eat these all day! These foods help your body! Hooray!”

Life Foods, which are blended with oils, are mostly wheat products, or are animal products/bi-products, are the orange light. You can ponder with your kids: “Hmmm, lets think about this. Is this food helpful for my body? Was it produced safely, and respectfully? A little might be ok but we should plan what we’re going to eat today so we make sure to give our body the best food.”

Labelled Foods are the red light. You can say, “Whoa! Stop! Let’s think about what are asking our body to do – this food is not what our body is designed to eat.”

The ingredients in some foods we eat with our family on special occasions (such as ice cream and custard) have some harmful ingredients likened to paint stripper. We question everything, and if we can’t understand how a food is made, stop now.

The simplest way to play the game with your children is to tell them, when they pick food, what colour light it is and whether to Go! Wait and think, or Stop. Be animated! And explain why – what is the food doing that is good, or not good, for the body.

Remember, even if you have a home full of green light foods, you may find that some foods agree with you better than some others do. All people have a body that has its own unique needs that can only be discovered by each person. You will know you best, and you can learn all by yourself.

If you were to take notice of what your family eats for one week, would they be eating mostly Life Foods, or Labelled Foods? I’d love to hear your feedback to this question – comment below or send me a private message to chat.

P.S. We can eat green light all day and live healthy, happy, empowered lives. Thousands of people do right now. They feel happy and confident, look amazing, are enthusiastic to discover new foods, and they have a tasty, varied diet. Life-Food-Fun could be helpful for you, if you are taking a real-time experiment and journey of changing the foods in your pantry live healthier, natural and empowered lives.

Healthier: Giving bodies the food they need to grow and create healthy cells. Not modifying the food in radical ways that destroys their health benefits.

Natural: Respecting the relationship between the earth and human bodies by eating foods in their natural season that they grow, and minimizing food kilometers (or the carbon impact by food traveling to defy the natural season).

Empowered: Taking back control of what food is put into our body. Deciding to eat only food, and not unnatural additives.


Copyright, Joanna Becker. Seek permission to copy or reproduce. 

Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Honesty and lessons in humility through parenting

img_4717‘It’s ok, mum. You’re learning. So am I.’  – My Little One, 4 years old.

I tell my little boy that I’m learning how to be the most beautiful happy version of me, in the same way that he is learning how to be his best, most beautiful version of himself, and that we are both learning how to be caring, kind and helpful to one another. ‘We are both learning how to live happily with each other,’ I say.

Like most other people I know, as a child I was taught to do everything adults told me without question. Not only did this teach me to become the adult that must always be right, but I lived years of insecurity, compromised self-identity and self-confidence. I learned that by doing what an adult told me and repeating what an adult taught me, or by copying the behavior of the respected adults around me, I was good, acceptable, loveable and worthy. Weren’t we all?

Adults rarely admit they have made a mistake. That would jeopardize their authority status.

I’ve never been comfortable with an authority role in my own parent-child relationship. I have chosen to live truthfully. The truth is: I have never experienced any particular moment before. My moments aren’t any more special, or superior, than my children’s moments. Every moment is unique and wonderful and is an experience that can’t be repeated exactly. I am grateful for every single moment. I am a learning parent, and I will be for every future moment.

To act like I’m not learning, and to think I’m unable to change my position on a parenting issue, is contrary to nature. We are all learning every day, and we are all the scientists of our own lives. We are here to explore, learn, experience and reach full empowerment, and to (bit-by-bit) discover how to live the happiest, most fulfilling life that we can possibly create with our very own power.

So to act like I am always right and that my children must do as I say … without ever thinking I was ever learning myself … flies in the face of living the truth. I am learning every day, along with my children.

It made me smile when my son said to me last week that he knows everything. When I replied that he has lots to learn, he said, ‘well, YOU know everything. You can teach me everything.’ I questioned him on that, too! To my baffled little boy, I explained that I’m learning along with him, and the whole fun in living life is to keep on learning, and that some philosophers have said that ‘when we stop learning, we die.’ His reply to me was, ‘yup. I already knew that.’ Bless!

One of our favourite tv series to watch together is Dinotopia, and a scene I personally love is where the people ride on the back of the Brachiosaurus as a mode of transport. When a leading character says that, actually the dinosaurs deserve no better than to be ordered around by the humans, he is corrected by the future Matriarch. She says, ‘on the contrary, humans can learn a lot from the dinosaurs – for example, we can learn humility‘. Putting aside our own pride, status, priorities, personal intentions and our own personal need to succeed, to help another travel their own personal path, no matter how self-deprecating it is, is true humility. And I feel it is something we are not generally taught to do in our modern society.

Instead many of us have been taught (and continue to be taught by each other, not at all deliberately but perhaps a tiny bit naively), to be defensive, ‘right’, critical of each other, labeling, unapologetic, power-seeking and proud. In typical daily life, we can be intolerant of each other, impatient, and we can really lack sensitivity and empathy in our daily quest to be ‘human doings’. Do, do and do some more, don’t let another person’s emotional needs slow us down, and give praise to ourselves time and time again for how much we accomplish by doing, doing, and doing some more. Feel eeeky? For me I feel stirred on the inside just reading this last paragraph – and yet it is the context of life for many people isn’t it.

Now I’ll tell a story of my own humility in the hope of sharing a lesson I learned. Once, when  my son started reflecting on a few incidents that had hurt him, and started crying while thinking about it, I immediately sighed and thought,’why does he do this? Why does he bring up things from the past and make himself cry?’ It was mood-dampening and I didn’t feel like having a teary conversation, seeing we were having a good day and on our way to the park to have more fun with friends. Thoughts ran through my head like, ‘he has such highs and lows, when he is high he is bursting with excitement and physically jiggles and wiggles, and then he has lows where he cries, maybe I should be worried, maybe he is wrong to do that, maybe I’m over evaluating, but maybe a health specialist would call it bipolar or anxiety or something…’ All the while I was admiring him for his honesty and in awe of his childhood innocence and expressiveness. Such conflicting feelings in a 10-minute space in time!

I urged him to cheer up and stop making himself sad thinking about it. He kept sobbing. Eventually I got cross and told him to cheer up. ‘Stop thinking about things that make you sad!’ I ordered. It was then, because he quickly went quiet and meekly said, ‘ok mummy’, that I realised my massive mistake.

Now I knew myself at this time. I was always thinking and reflecting on what happened to me yesterday, ten minutes ago, one year ago, twenty years ago, as a way to build my senses for what I like and don’t like in this world. I revisited events in my imagination and validated my feelings on the experience, and came to conclusions about how I’d deal with similar situations in future. We all do. As an adult I learned to do this in my mind or in civil conversations with others – and to control child-like expressive emotions like crying out loud – but I definitely do exactly the same thing in the ‘grown up way’. And yet I ordered my son to stop because as a parent, it was frustrating to not be able to control his mood.

It is very normal that when a child reaches age 4, and can communicate freely, that he starts to repeat what he has heard, seen, experienced, to validate what has happened and to learn (and validate his intuition) on whether it’s good or bad.

I felt uneasy with the way I had shut him down. I had just taught him to suppress his emotions, to ignore his need to validate the world and his place in it. I had taught him to follow my orders, and I had missed an opportunity to teach him that he is, actually, safe in his world. It was quiet in the car, but I pepped up. ‘I’m sorry,’ I said, with a quivery voice. I noticed how hard it can be to say sorry to a small child who depended on me being right. ‘It was wrong of me to tell you to stop feeling sad. You are entitled to feel sad, to talk and to cry. I’m here for you, and I’m listening.’ (This is, in fact, what I wish I had heard many times in my life – and this is how I would like to be spoken to now when I’m unsure if my feelings.) ‘I’m learning too,’ I said.

He was so grateful. He finished explaining what had upset him, I validated his experience and repeated his feelings back to him, and he cheered up.

And the lesson for both of us was that it’s ok to say ‘I’m learning, too,’ and to be honest, humble, even humiliated, because sometimes it’s the way to better connection, happiness, and love.

We are taught to say we are learning in schools, however schools focus on the left side (intellectual) side of the brain. We are taught less – if at all – to openly say we are learning emotionally… and to allow ourselves to study, test, review and develop concepts relating to our creativity, intuition, energetic connections, and heart-based thinking. This is why I am now passionately writing material for my books, specifically for increasing vibrational energies, and for claiming your power in your life. Stay tuned and please visit my pages often.

“When you are in power of your life, you  have no need to seek order and control over another’s life. Simple enjoyment and fulfillment is all that you seek.”  (Joanna Becker)

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Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

That lady said my kids were wild and unruly!

This is what happened. I took my boys (4yo and 1yo) to the supermarket – very brave, I know. 4yo was superb, sitting in the trolley the whole time, rarely saying a word. 1yo was on foot, trotting backwards and forwards pointing his quirky little 1-finger point, waving, talking and charming. I grabbed them hot chicken winglets on the way in, dissapointed when I opened the box to find bright orange crumbed nuggets. Colours, additives, a big experience for any 1yo. Anyway he ate them up and got more and more excited and enthusiastic about running away from me.

I soon had a trolley full of nappy boxes, tinned tomatoes, pasta and seafood, and both boys were out on floor to walk. Payment done, supermarket visit successful! I visited the gourmet green grocer for our healthy whole food and the boys were pretty over it by now, both on foot and exploring in different directions. A lady in queue scoffed and waved her finger at my 4yo, who was walking laps of one aisle, singing to himself, and my 1yo in my arms wiggling and trying to get free. This is what she said:

“I don’t know why you young women don’t use harnesses these days. Back in my day all children were tied to their parents and they stayed with their parents at all times. None of this unruly, wild behaviour you see everywhere now.

She left and the check out assistant told me that the woman was a doctor.

Ok, so there are a million come-backs I’m now coming up with. I wouldn’t have called her an older lady before, but now she has put the idea in my head with all this ‘In my day’ talk. Let’s see, ‘in your day grocery shopping wasn’t so stimulating for children – with bright lights, toys, flashing LCD Screen advertisements, music, trolleys and escalators etc’, and, ‘in your day fresh hot food wasn’t tarnished with additives, colours, flavours like they are now, which we know is directly related to ADHD and behavioral issues,’ and, ‘Really? It’s a normal developmental phase for a 1yo to explore his environment through movement and touching, as you would know’, but I settled with…

“I can tell you where to stick it…”

No just kidding. I brushed her with a random reply, a laugh and with my cheeks a bit rosy, of course – as most of us do.

It’s a default reaction for all of us, when criticised, to start thinking and let the thoughts snowball. I went off to the car with my thoughts running over what she said. My physical reaction was to rummage through bags and grab sweet food to binge on. I felt tempted to snap at my 1yo for continuing to wriggle and scream, resisting that action knowing it was my rattled nerves driving the urge.

Unruly, wild behaviour.

And then I caught myself.

I have been taught how to recognise the ‘indicating’ physical symptoms of emotional issues that needs to be dealt with. I knew, then and there, that I was responding and dealing in the typical way I usually do and there must be something beneath the surface. Blushing and laughing – check. Binge eating sweets – check. Feeling frustrated with kids – check. Stuck in my own head and consumed in thought about all my possible come-backs – check. Grimace on my face – check. In a hurry to escape – check, check. Ok girl, it’s time to break this down.

In spiritual counseling we learn that if something somebody has said gets a reaction from you, it’s because it either:

(A) is something you feel is true and yet you aren’t acknowledging

(B) is something you would probably say or do yourself

So I had my two options to explore. I realised in this case, it was probably a bit of (A) and (B). So then the question – why would I be sensitive to this sort of thing, do I judge other parents and classify their kids as wild or unruly, and look at mine with this judgement, too? Well that’s a hard one – I guess I might in certain circumstances beneath the surface. So then the question – whose standards am I judging myself and others against? Are they my standards or something I was taught? And you probably already know the answer to this – I am judging myself according to high standards carried over from my own childhood experiences. Not necessarily my own personal standards.

After this it’s easy to move forward. I know I’m being hard on myself, and others, because I’m afraid of not being good enough or reaching a standard. That ‘old woman’ showed me what I need to let go of. A lot of the time instances like mine today, which are a really good reason to go and find a friend and have a whine or a vent on Facebook or blog, are the exact opportunities we need to become a happier and peaceful person.

Because we create our realities, and I brought that woman into my life today. Maybe I can wish for her, that one day, she will figure out why she has the need to criticise a younger mum and her beautiful children in the grocery store. But I’m pretty happy with what she has reminded me of today.

If you notice yourself repeatedly re-living incidents like this and having a whine, vent with friends, or you notice yourself often making ‘conversation about another person’ and you want to find peace and love yourself and everyone around you (believe me, it can be done), then you might like this website and everything there is to read.

Because once we deal with underlying emotional insecurities, they are no longer necessary in our lives and incidents like this, and people like this, just dissapear. It might seem more obvious to just ‘get over it and forget it’ – however repeating emotional insecurities can eventually change our physical body and result in ‘diagnosable’ conditions.

Healing and preventing future dis-ease is as simple as listening to your thoughts now.

I’ll leave you with advice by my inner wiser persona, specially given to me for this topic:

We can ask ourselves, “what has been said to us that was so bad? And what was so bad about that?” Then get deep into that feeling of what is so bad, let it be felt, and nurture the inner-child. – Joanna Becker 

As in my case, sometimes you just end up laughing! I mean, what is wild and unruly anyway?

“You are enough, and you are loved. You deserve to let this go.” – Joanna Becker 

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Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

The strength to be ‘individual’

img_4722If you have ever had one of those moments where you questioned yourself and your decisions surrounding your children’s wellbeing, I’ve been there before, too.

Mine was on the homeschooling subject, and not because I was thinking I should change my choice – I could see that my boys were thriving and were physically, intelligently and emotionally flourishing. Staying together everyday worked so fabulously well for us, and we were 100% happy without pre-school or daycare settings. The reason I questioned myself was because I remembered that I wasn’t not doing what most others were doing, and sometimes that fact alone really made me insecure, and question how I could possibly fit in within my social environment.

My whole perception of pre-school, along with many other accepted social norms, was objective and challenging. At the end of the day – research, facts and statistics aside – my perception on “pre-school and my family” was in support of my own intuition, which told me that (a) I was doing the right thing observing and responding to my children’s personal needs – their active and passive verbal and non-verbal requests – and (b) I was doing the right thing providing alternative (I’ll say superior just because I can 🙂 ) social and educational opportunities within our comfortable environment.

(Here is Master 4 who is free to run and play in the rain in our beautiful rainforest garden on weekdays)

So in conversation with others, our words could be limited and even, at times, fragile and uncomfortable. We knew our differences and loved each other regardless. Parenting is such an important role and no matter what, we respected each other, absolutely.

It’s tempting – in one of these hours of feeling insecure (and like a social misfit) – to give in to anxiety and get caught up in snow-ball thinking.

“I could start researching pre-schools. But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

“I could try to make new friends. But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

“I could debate with my ‘significant others’ to try to prove my points and get them on my side. (Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all on the same side, sometimes!) But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

“I could think about this topic all day, continually question myself, and let it take me away from the joys of the present. But, I won’t, because my intuition tells me we are happy, healthy, and where we are meant to be.”

(And who would want to be distracted from this present moment? Just look at Master 1 sloshing in the muddy puddles as the fog glides over us.)

If you want to refresh your techniques on handling mini-crisis events (and we have so many, as parents) and developing your ability to follow your intuition with confidence, that’s what I am here for. Feel free to contact me anytime.

– copyright, Joanna Becker. Contact for permission to reproduce.

Parenting Ideas

I have a weekly ‘Recovery day’ – and that’s ok!


What do I do all week? I guide myself and my little loves, (two boys, aged 4 and 1 respectively), through many important socialisation, stimulation and natural learning activities…

– Silkwood School’s Steiner-inspired playgroup
– KinderEnergy Musical playgroup
– Greystone Farm Steiner family daycare
– Hinze Dam Catchment Kids class
– Sunrise beach visit and
– Sunday outing with ‘daddy’
– plenty of home time with reading, puzzles, talking, gardening, crafting, cooking and PLAYING of course.

… All of which involve high levels of energy from the kids, and me! 🙂

In between this I attempt to regain order in the house (yes, very funny) and create new things for myself.

My two active little boys keep me on my toes every minute they are awake!

Sound similar to your week?

So what’s this Recovery Day business? Read on …

It’s week 4 of the first term. I am so happy with our weekly rhythm and I can see that my little loves are also happy; I can just tell because they’re showing that they feel safe and their moods are improving every day.

I was so excited to start term 1 and get the rhythm and flow started again.

Importantly, we include in our weekly rhythm a ‘Recovery Day’. What is it? Simply, a day lounging around inside the house, playing on the floor, napping in bed, reading or watching a movie together, enjoying regular snacky-meals together as a family (many outside on the grass), as well as some peaceful relaxation outside in the garden with nothing to do except cuddle and watch the birds fly overhead.

Our recovery day is, in my opinion, the best day of our week. 6 days of the week are busy and energetic, and the Recovery Day is just what we need to replenish and appreciate the small, simplest things in life.

We don’t all share the same Recovery Day.

My 4yo has his Recovery Day on Monday, whilst I tidy and clean the house, work a little on the computer, and occupy our toddler. Master 4 enjoys a blissful day of ‘no scheduled anything whatsoever’. That is, cruising at his own pace, following his own instinctual needs for the day (lounging around or playing in sandpit solo) and just letting his day flow and move with the breeze.

My toddler and I have our Recovery Day on Wednesday, when Master 4 is having the time-of-his-little-life at Greystone Farm family daycare. I schedule nothing for this day. After I drop him off I return home and make Breastfeeding and cuddling – without any distractions – my priority. Master 1 loves our day together of nursing, reading, snacking and napping. It completely reinvigorates me, gives me time to meditate or practice mindfulness, and let’s me think about our family’s health – and get in touch with my intuition – without much interruption.

I am certain our Recovery Day helps prevent us getting rundown. If we are coming down with a bug, this special day gives the best natural cure – rest- before influenza or injury can begin.

Do you deliberately set aside one day of the week for recovery?

A Recovery Day is different to a regular home day. It is a day of rest for the person receiving the Recovery Day. You could do it for yourself on the day your child is in daycare, or you could all have your Recovery Day together by lounging around quietly, blowing with the breeze, quietly reading, using soft voices and lower-than-usual energy levels. You could stay in your pajamas to symbolism the day’s ‘uniqueness’ to your older children and just hang out in the bedroom doing crafts and having a picnic on the floor.

Term Recovery

Even though my children are too young for school and we are fans of natural learning and homeschooling these early childhood years anyway, school terms still impact our lifestyle – and I like that. Despite our freedom from school, our kinder activities and my work need to be switched off – just like any other family – during the year. By planning with school term dates, I can make sure we have clear holiday and celebratory breaks throughout the year.

Holidays are important but also have a use-by date. The restlessness and anxiety that children and mums can feel after a few weeks of holidays can highlight how important rhythm and repetitiveness is for the whole family. (While my personal experience doesn’t stretch to older children, I believe rhythm and repetition benefits ALL ages including us parents).

Everyone feels safer with routine and everyone finds comfort with purpose and rituals. It’s human nature.

Recovery Day is a ritual I’m proud to include in our schedule, and proud to share this personal information with you. I hope many mums can feel comfortable taking the same kind of break knowing it’s healthy and safe to stop and replenish every 7 days. It’s ok.

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Food and Nutrition, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Stories and ideas for raising ‘healthy eaters’

I was with Master 4 in the kitchen and he pretended to pass me imaginary lollies and cookies out of a tin.
‘Read the ingredients, Jo’, he said.
‘Mm,’ I said. ‘Sugar, glucose syrup, colours, flavours.’
He piped up, ‘food acid.’
‘Yes, probably that too. Not real food hey?’
‘No. No real food at all…’

As usual, he was proud that he was validating what he already knew about RED-LIGHT-FOOD (as we call it, you may know of this term that I’ve written about before).

It’s tempting to jump to conclusions and assume he wants to eat lollies and cookies. And yet I’ve seen many times now that he prefers for me to stay consistent, and say no. He is happier that I prove my love over and over by saying no to unhealthy foods. (I never would have guessed this could happen!)

Master 4 and I (unusually) visited the supermarket together, twice in the last week. Both times he went bezerk at the check-outs with the crazy (yes, CRAZY!) display of confectionary. He fingered and grabbed and begged and negotiated diplomatically until I was simply over the drama. I bent down to him and did what I never do.

I said, ‘That stuff is shit. It’s shit. And I don’t buy SHIT.’ (You thought I was going to say I relented and bought the tic-tacs, didn’t you?)

You should have seen how thrilled Master 4 was! Not only had I validated what he already knew, which is what he was actually baiting me for, but I empowered him to ‘adult status’ by swearing in conversation with him. Officially a big boy. He told the people in the queue behind us, ‘we don’t buy that because it’s SHIT. I’m 4.’

Well done, son 🙂

Have you ever noticed that when you DON’T RELENT to begging, your kids are happier? Mine certainly is. He tests me out to see if I’m consistent with my truth. He is always happy when I stay passionately with my truth and show him that I’m faithful to my beliefs.

Kids love consistency. And he loves knowing that because I love him I only buy him foods that will help him feel happy.

I was starving and thinking about lunch. I was thinking about heavy, hot foods. Then I walked past my climbing snow-pea vine, grabbed about 10, and loved eating the crunchy juicy mini-harvest with my bare feet on the grass. 3 hours later I realised I hadn’t been hungry afterwards. I had been NOURISHED.

It is the LIFE-FORCE of food that fuels us. Life force = ENERGY. The greater the energy in the food, the more nourished we are. The more life in the food, the greater the energy. Whole, fresh foods nourish.

Energy in food is important. Breaking down, refining, processing and cooking whole foods (as done for most packet food) destroys the energy.

We need to eat food fresh and whole – and in fact, the more spiritually sensitive we are, the more we feel nourished merely from connecting with the energy within life foods.

Taste and the sensations of eating are blessings, they are wonder experiences. A part of the experience of being here. Even more satisfying is the experience of eating WHOLE ENERGY that our bodies are built to receive.

There was an article floating around Facebook recently about the components of each whole food and the long ‘label’ description if we ever labeled an apple, for example.

The writer was very clever, but missed an essential point. Whole fresh foods are consumed together in one energetic movement. Additives, (ingredients added after processing) do not contain the whole-food energy that we need to be nourished and live well.

Yes, we pick up all sorts of natural chemical compounds from whole foods.

It’s the togetherness of this whole food that completes us and keeps our body in working order.

Additives put things out of order. They complicate diet by blending random bits of different foods and non-foods (lab compounds). How can we possibly know that our bodies are getting what they need with all this breaking, chopping, changing?

Processing food turns something very simple – the act of nourishing our body – into a thousand-piece puzzle.

Whole foods are simple. Simple. Makes SENSE. And so does a simple, sensible approach.

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Life Creativity, Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness, Uncategorized

The mum who had a fault and shared it.

Healthy_new_yearThousands of children around Australia are returning to school this week. It’s a time of fresh beginnings, of anxiety, excitement, new friendships and relationships – and not only for the children, because parents are equally feeling the mixed bag of emotions.

Parents worry about their children, mostly. But what about ourselves? Do we ever think about the learning experiences we will have publicly, outside of our comfort zones, that will shape us and create our futures?

I became a mum four years ago. I’ve since learned how to be accountable for my faults, my  reality, and ultimately – my happiness. I’m sharing the lot.

Overcoming chronic anxiety two years ago opened my eyes to hidden signs and symptoms of unhappy and UN-empowered mums, who were brushing off bad moods or poor health as just ‘bad days’. With my inspired hand, I started writing day and night about the responsibility we have to ourselves to heal from the inside out, and be free of anxiety and stress (even if we don’t believe anxiety or stress is present in our life).

Now I’m aware that I only have to ask for help, or visualise the outcome that I want, to bring myself back to an empowered mindset. I can recognise when my manifestations turn into reality. I know every moment is perfect and is paving the way for the next perfect moment. I know how powerful I am.

I’m not one of those people that brushes bad moods off as ‘just a bad day’. I know, through my experiences over the past few years, that little thoughts can reveal big emotions that are impacting on life in big ways. And I enjoy exploring.

I want to share what I am learning, and have learned, with you.

I’m a learning mum. I’m a learning wife. I’m a learning house-keeper. I’m a learning woman. I’m a learning human being.

Via this blog and my books, I’m posting what I’m learning every day to connect with other parents, and to validate that they are not alone if they feel or experience the same range of emotions that I do, as a natural and intuitive person and parent, and as someone who possibly (just putting it out there) experiences anxiety as an early parent.

I blog and share my experiences with you, at the same time exposing myself as an everyday, time-pressed, exhausted, house-wife and mum who has fairly high expectations of myself (expectations that, like many, have their roots in anxiety about control and safety). I want to relate and learn from other mums and I want to convert unhelpful, negative energy to powerful, rewarding, positive energy.

How my writing can help.

I choose to see all of my experiences that frustrate, challenge, sadden, infuriate, or weaken me, as opportunities to learn and grow and improve my perception of life, the way I live, and my experience as a parent.

2014 is a year for being real.

I’m going to start the year by being ok with being me … the inspired part as well as the very human part that needs nurturing from the inside-out. I wonder how many other parents can be REAL WITH ME this year?

Will you accept yourself – with all your faults – as perfect and perfectly lovable? Will you recognise that ‘bad days’ are a great opportunity to do some digging and reflection on emotions making big impacts on your life? Will you stop worrying about what other people think, and do some inner work to change for a better life experience?

As usual I feel just like a child that is starting first day at school, who will make mistakes in front of the school room many times throughout the year. And I feel good about it because by now I know the lessons are well worth the experience.

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Parenting Ideas, Uncategorized

Steiner, Montessori and Your Child

Montessori_educationI’m certainly not an expert when it comes to describing methods of teaching various education philosophies. But it’s an area that interests me and I’m learning quickly … so many people are asking me what the difference is between Montessori and Steiner. If you don’t know anything and are looking for a basic parent’s-view explanation, this blog is for you.

I’ll start by saying that Montessori seems to be quite serious in focus, in comparison to Steiner’s Waldorf (if you hear of Waldorf, it is the education philosophy and technique taught by Rudolf Steiner). Steiner is for the whole child with an emphasis on earth and imagination, where Montessori is for little minds who want to be empowered – to learn and develop useful skills, and even mimic adult activities in a smaller setting.

Montessori and Steiner have their similarities in that they are both child-led, individualised, gentle experiences. They both encourage natural learning and are perfect for Natural Learners.

Rudolf Steiner believed that children can be left to be children, up until the age of 7. He encouraged that they be free to use their imagination and make-believe, play, explore physically, emotionally and spiritually, and most of all, creatively. His schooling program involved rhythm and routine, group activities in 20-30 minute blocks, singing and gentle movements, ceremonies, celebrations of the seasons, and gross-motor and creative (hand making) activities and interactions with the real world, i.e., earth and its creations.

Embracing that the foundations for reading and learning begin with listening and interacting in everyday life, Steiner schools don’t introduce formal curriculum for learning to read and write until age seven. This is on the premise that learning to read and write on paper will distract the child from developing their gross motor skills fully, and will also affect their development emotionally, spiritually and creatively, which are the most essential skills to develop before age 7. At age 7, some Steiner schools have a concentrated 6-week literacy program that children respond exceptionally well, and usually the children can read/write even better than their non-Steiner peers. This is because they have developed so completely in all other areas, that the words, sounds and visual characters, and ability to write and draw, comes easily and naturally.

Maria Montessori developed her schooling system for children who had difficulties learning in a large group, and found that most young minds were yearning to learn and be challenged. She felt that children must learn for the sake of ‘now’ and for fully exploring and enjoying the present day – not learning for the sake of the future and what is next to come (I love this aspect).

Montessori schools focus on taking advantage of the child’s early years because the mind learns so readily and productively in this time. By allowing the child to work at their own height with materials created for their special little size, we can stimulate their current psychological and physiological abilities, and the child can easily learn and grow and advance to more difficult challenges – when they are interested and ready to advance.

I personally found that my son started to need the challenges that Montessori presented at age 3. Without the focus, individualised activities and the challenging tasks, he resorts to hyperactivity and detachment from his environment, and he started to use his energy in other obstructive ways, such as jumping on furniture and snatching from me to get attention.

But I only give him the Montessori experience 1-2 days per week for small periods – that is, as long as he is clear in focus and is interested. I feel it is extremely important to put imagination, creativity, music, candle-type ceremonies, bread-making, nature-walks, crafts, outside play and story-times, with my company, guidance and friendship, first. So Steiner influences 70% of our week – Montessori the remaining 30%.

I hope this has helped you! For those who know more than I do (I’m sure there are thousands of practised Steiner and Montessori parents around Australia) please give me feedback on how you have liked Steiner and Montessori and what you have loved most.

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Parenting Ideas

Little adults and their parents

When little toddlers mature into little boys and girls it becomes easier to expect more of them and we find ourselves speaking to them in ways we never used to.

We might expect them to:
– understand consequences
– recognize hazards and dangers
– always be kind and gentle, courteous and polite to others
– be decisive, capable, reasonable, and sensible
– understand the difference between strangers and friends
– read relationships and personalities and know what is appropriate behaviour and language
– respect the order and cleanliness of the house

If the above sounds too theoretical and like it doesn’t apply – think about these questions:

1. Have you become frustrated with your son for changing his mind about what he wants for breakfast?
2. Did you impulsively yell at your daughter when she snatched a toy off a friend?
3. Did you get angry at your son when he did something after you told him it wasn’t safe?
4. Did you raise your voice or yell when your daughter started pulling Tupperware out of the cupboard in a mess?

All of these situations sound fair and like good cause for a parent to get frustrated.

Staying in a calm frame of mind and parenting gently can be hard, particularly when there is tense energy in the environment.

Our idea for you – the parent – is to TRANSFORM the energy into a positive energy you can work with.

This takes a little bit of sacrifice, as you will need to slow down a bit.

You might be a busy person, be mentally tired after work, be physically exhausted. You might have a million things on your mind.

We are all these things at least 2-4 times per day. The easy thing to do when you feel this way is to leave your young children alone and call out to them (scold, discipline) from a distance.

When you do this, your child does NOT feel a change in energy. The energy becomes more agitated and the tension is amplified. They may stop for a moment when they hear your voice – and then carry on to do the same thing seconds later. The same energy is still in motion. You may resort to being rough (verbally or physically) to ‘make your child stop and listen’.

The way you handle the situation, and your relationship with your youngster, is defined in these little moments. Memories are created at these times just as much (if not more) as the moments you:

1. Cuddle up to read a story together before bed
2. Give a piggy-back ride while making silly sounds and laughing together
3. Work together in the kitchen to make a special meal
4. Kiss and soothe a sore spot after a little accident

For little children who do something ‘wrong’ (in our eyes, not theirs), a lecture or hard discipline can overpower the lesson in the event. For example, you may be worried because your son has choked on food after eating too fast and you immediately lecture and get cross. Because children are highly emotional little beings, your anger will stay in their memory more than the message about eating food slowly to prevent further choking. If this kind of parenting response happens regularly – your child will remember your anger and disapproval more than many important lessons.

You need to make a choice about whether you want to take a few extra minutes, several times per day to create and maintain your beautiful relationship. It is worth the effort to slow down and practice transforming energy and educating your child in every opportunity.

In each of the above situations, you could try the following:

1. Have you become frustrated with your son for changing his mind about what he wants for breakfast?
Move closer to him, sit down and calmly acknowledge what he is saying. Transform the energy to a calm, quiet, discussion. Ask him to help you prepare the breakfast he wants. ‘I understand that you don’t feel like eating this. I’d like to hear your idea and to help you, sweetheart. Can you tell me what healthy food you are thinking of?’
2. Did you impulsively yell at your daughter when she snatched a toy off a friend?
Move into your child’s environment and get down on your knees. Transform the energy by gently taking her hand and saying her name, establishing eye contact, and waiting. Explain calmly how the incident is not ok and what your child can do instead. Ask her to practice the better alternative.
3. Did you get angry at your son when he did something after you told him it wasn’t safe?
Move into your child’s environment and transform the busy energy to a waiting energy. Relax and stay with him until the hazard is gone, or the urge to act dangerously has passed. Explain the situation, and tell him that you are there to help him be safe. Help him with the safe alternative.
4. Did you raise your voice or yell when your daughter started pulling Tupperware out of the cupboard in a mess?
Move into your child’s environment, get down on your knees, and be silent. Make a point of calmly looking at the mess that is being created. Be friendly and smile. When your child’s energy has transformed and she is calm and curious, ask gently what she is wanting to do. Then offer to help her, and discuss how you will do it, starting with packing away the Tupperware together. Ask her to talk about her ideas with you first in future.

A little bit of patience and transforming energy to calm, helpful, gentle and friendly energy will improve your day as well as your child’s. It can take a little practice and it helps if both parents have the same approach and support each other – when one parent is weak, the other can be strong and step in to help (because we all need a break at times).

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