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2nd January 2018 – Metaphysical Reading for The Real Food Tribe (Teaching Our Kids How To Eat Real Food)


Welcome to this week’s reading by Joanna Becker, author, blogger, and healer (communication with spirits) for the Real Food Tribe Blog. As you’re enjoying the first fresh days of the new year, and setting intentions and reflecting on what was great (and not so great) about the year passed, don’t forget to listen to your body and honour its very specific needs at the beginning of a new cycle.

The body’s seasons begin fresh every year: within your body’s internal biological clock, there is a re-birth occurring. So think of it like the beginning of Spring – a fresh time, waking up, setting intentions, spreading wings, tasting new things, trying new experiences with excitement and vigour, all while being aware that you are cared for, loved and safe and have a beautiful spiritual support system on call, anytime, within your own energetic field.

Let’s talk about which foods are best for your body at the time of year when you are waking from a tiring, effortful end of year, and ready to start a new chapter of your life time with improved happiness and success.

Cucumbers, are fresh and cooling, and light on the body to process. They are invigorating, and especially great for stimulating new thoughts and generating inspiration and enthusiasm.

Strawberries, a summer fruit, are a sweet treat that are enjoyed from frozen in smoothies or ice-crush drinks. They create a feeling of safety, love, nourishment and enjoyment in the life that it is now, presently.

Lettuce, a great food for summer, and great crisp energy for encouraging you to be light-footed, energetic and embracing new experiences. Easy to digest, nourishing with a good supply of water, easy on the tastebuds. This food is good for creating an energetic field of lightness, but also grounding, with structure and stability.

Sometimes during the early parts of this year you may feel like there is no way to improve on the situations you experienced last year. It is paramount that you monitor your language, that comes out of your mouth, and is passed through your brain in thoughts, and your heart in emotions, and improve on what you say. Thoughts are the key to your ultimate fulfilment. The sense of wonder that you will have in life, this year, will be generated from the words that you speak, think and feel. Words that will be especially helpful for you this year, in creating a safe and healthy home for yourself and your children, are:

  • “Let this food inspire us to be better versions of ourselves.”
  • “Especially now, I welcome this food into my body to nourish and enable healthful growth and support.”
  • “Yes, I am willing to improve my body’s health and am ready to try new foods.”
  • “Give me the strength, courage, discipline, and ambition to try what is ultimately good for me and can inspire my children to do what is good for them.”
  • “Thank you for the food I eat, the water I drink, the air I breathe, and nature I enjoy.”

It is of course helpful to print out phrases such as the above and include them on the dining table or breakfast bar, and involve the family in reading them aloud during meals.

Thank you for sharing a wonder-full 2017 with me and the Real Food Tribe Community.

You are loved more than you know! Be yourself, bless others and live your truth.

Let love be your compass.

© Copyright 2018. Joanna Becker is an Australian author, blogger and healer (communication with spirits) at The Real Food Tribe Blog website ( She has authored books on self-healing using internal dialogue with self and spirit, positive affirmations, meditation, and conscientious parenting. In 2018 Joanna Becker will be offering free channeled messages on the topic of nourishing the body with Real Food. In addition, you can join Joanna and her tribe in the private support page Real Food Tribe – Private Support on Facebook, click here to join:


Parenting Ideas, Self-healing and Wellness

Honesty and lessons in humility through parenting

img_4717‘It’s ok, mum. You’re learning. So am I.’  – My Little One, 4 years old.

I tell my little boy that I’m learning how to be the most beautiful happy version of me, in the same way that he is learning how to be his best, most beautiful version of himself, and that we are both learning how to be caring, kind and helpful to one another. ‘We are both learning how to live happily with each other,’ I say.

Like most other people I know, as a child I was taught to do everything adults told me without question. Not only did this teach me to become the adult that must always be right, but I lived years of insecurity, compromised self-identity and self-confidence. I learned that by doing what an adult told me and repeating what an adult taught me, or by copying the behavior of the respected adults around me, I was good, acceptable, loveable and worthy. Weren’t we all?

Adults rarely admit they have made a mistake. That would jeopardize their authority status.

I’ve never been comfortable with an authority role in my own parent-child relationship. I have chosen to live truthfully. The truth is: I have never experienced any particular moment before. My moments aren’t any more special, or superior, than my children’s moments. Every moment is unique and wonderful and is an experience that can’t be repeated exactly. I am grateful for every single moment. I am a learning parent, and I will be for every future moment.

To act like I’m not learning, and to think I’m unable to change my position on a parenting issue, is contrary to nature. We are all learning every day, and we are all the scientists of our own lives. We are here to explore, learn, experience and reach full empowerment, and to (bit-by-bit) discover how to live the happiest, most fulfilling life that we can possibly create with our very own power.

So to act like I am always right and that my children must do as I say … without ever thinking I was ever learning myself … flies in the face of living the truth. I am learning every day, along with my children.

It made me smile when my son said to me last week that he knows everything. When I replied that he has lots to learn, he said, ‘well, YOU know everything. You can teach me everything.’ I questioned him on that, too! To my baffled little boy, I explained that I’m learning along with him, and the whole fun in living life is to keep on learning, and that some philosophers have said that ‘when we stop learning, we die.’ His reply to me was, ‘yup. I already knew that.’ Bless!

One of our favourite tv series to watch together is Dinotopia, and a scene I personally love is where the people ride on the back of the Brachiosaurus as a mode of transport. When a leading character says that, actually the dinosaurs deserve no better than to be ordered around by the humans, he is corrected by the future Matriarch. She says, ‘on the contrary, humans can learn a lot from the dinosaurs – for example, we can learn humility‘. Putting aside our own pride, status, priorities, personal intentions and our own personal need to succeed, to help another travel their own personal path, no matter how self-deprecating it is, is true humility. And I feel it is something we are not generally taught to do in our modern society.

Instead many of us have been taught (and continue to be taught by each other, not at all deliberately but perhaps a tiny bit naively), to be defensive, ‘right’, critical of each other, labeling, unapologetic, power-seeking and proud. In typical daily life, we can be intolerant of each other, impatient, and we can really lack sensitivity and empathy in our daily quest to be ‘human doings’. Do, do and do some more, don’t let another person’s emotional needs slow us down, and give praise to ourselves time and time again for how much we accomplish by doing, doing, and doing some more. Feel eeeky? For me I feel stirred on the inside just reading this last paragraph – and yet it is the context of life for many people isn’t it.

Now I’ll tell a story of my own humility in the hope of sharing a lesson I learned. Once, when  my son started reflecting on a few incidents that had hurt him, and started crying while thinking about it, I immediately sighed and thought,’why does he do this? Why does he bring up things from the past and make himself cry?’ It was mood-dampening and I didn’t feel like having a teary conversation, seeing we were having a good day and on our way to the park to have more fun with friends. Thoughts ran through my head like, ‘he has such highs and lows, when he is high he is bursting with excitement and physically jiggles and wiggles, and then he has lows where he cries, maybe I should be worried, maybe he is wrong to do that, maybe I’m over evaluating, but maybe a health specialist would call it bipolar or anxiety or something…’ All the while I was admiring him for his honesty and in awe of his childhood innocence and expressiveness. Such conflicting feelings in a 10-minute space in time!

I urged him to cheer up and stop making himself sad thinking about it. He kept sobbing. Eventually I got cross and told him to cheer up. ‘Stop thinking about things that make you sad!’ I ordered. It was then, because he quickly went quiet and meekly said, ‘ok mummy’, that I realised my massive mistake.

Now I knew myself at this time. I was always thinking and reflecting on what happened to me yesterday, ten minutes ago, one year ago, twenty years ago, as a way to build my senses for what I like and don’t like in this world. I revisited events in my imagination and validated my feelings on the experience, and came to conclusions about how I’d deal with similar situations in future. We all do. As an adult I learned to do this in my mind or in civil conversations with others – and to control child-like expressive emotions like crying out loud – but I definitely do exactly the same thing in the ‘grown up way’. And yet I ordered my son to stop because as a parent, it was frustrating to not be able to control his mood.

It is very normal that when a child reaches age 4, and can communicate freely, that he starts to repeat what he has heard, seen, experienced, to validate what has happened and to learn (and validate his intuition) on whether it’s good or bad.

I felt uneasy with the way I had shut him down. I had just taught him to suppress his emotions, to ignore his need to validate the world and his place in it. I had taught him to follow my orders, and I had missed an opportunity to teach him that he is, actually, safe in his world. It was quiet in the car, but I pepped up. ‘I’m sorry,’ I said, with a quivery voice. I noticed how hard it can be to say sorry to a small child who depended on me being right. ‘It was wrong of me to tell you to stop feeling sad. You are entitled to feel sad, to talk and to cry. I’m here for you, and I’m listening.’ (This is, in fact, what I wish I had heard many times in my life – and this is how I would like to be spoken to now when I’m unsure if my feelings.) ‘I’m learning too,’ I said.

He was so grateful. He finished explaining what had upset him, I validated his experience and repeated his feelings back to him, and he cheered up.

And the lesson for both of us was that it’s ok to say ‘I’m learning, too,’ and to be honest, humble, even humiliated, because sometimes it’s the way to better connection, happiness, and love.

We are taught to say we are learning in schools, however schools focus on the left side (intellectual) side of the brain. We are taught less – if at all – to openly say we are learning emotionally… and to allow ourselves to study, test, review and develop concepts relating to our creativity, intuition, energetic connections, and heart-based thinking. This is why I am now passionately writing material for my books, specifically for increasing vibrational energies, and for claiming your power in your life. Stay tuned and please visit my pages often.

“When you are in power of your life, you  have no need to seek order and control over another’s life. Simple enjoyment and fulfillment is all that you seek.”  (Joanna Becker)

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Self-healing and Wellness

Happy to be happy!

It’s common for friends to exclaim that this little boy, my son of 7 months, has pure joy in his face. Wouldn’t it be great if we all had such ready, joyful smiles!

If I were to ask you how you are, could you answer like this? ‘Brilliant! I am fantastic!’

Maybe it is not the truth. Would you say it anyway, even if it meant you would be telling a lie?

When we are not well, or we have a pain somewhere in our body, or we are not sleeping well at night (and let’s face it, we can all benefit from a better night sleep), we can get into a comforting routine of talking about it regularly – especially if it is a recurring or ongoing problem.

We are aware in ourselves that we are not 100%, and sometimes we also want our friends or family to be aware of what’s happening. Or we are completely distracted by the issue and we can’t switch off (perhaps we don’t allow ourselves to).

We all know that as we get older we don’t allow ourselves to feel joy as readily as children. We make a non-verbal commitment with ourselves to not live in the present moment – to be always thinking, worrying, reflecting, analyzing, evaluating, or feeling guilty for not being enough and doing more.

Of course, most physical unhealthiness is caused by emotional unhealthiness or dis-ease.

To get better, the first thing we usually focus on is exploring and resolving why we are sick, in pain, or not sleeping well on a physical level. We apply ‘topical’ pain-relief and use solutions that give us immediate physical relief.

There is another thing we can do to get better for a longer term – it is a bit more awkward to acknowledge and is something we don’t focus on enough. It involves exploring and resolving your emotional need for being unwell and understanding your emotional need to talk about it.

Do you want to believe yourself that you are not 100%?
– Why?
– What will you gain, what will you not be able to do, what will you have to do instead?
– How does being unwell, in pain, or sleep deprived, change your life in a GOOD way?

Do you want others to believe you are not 100%, and if so – why?
– What will you gain if others are sympathetic and are treating you carefully?
– Will they expect less of you, give you more, make special plans and allowances for you?
– What would happen if you told them you were brilliant?

Answering these questions can help you to figure out your underlying emotional need for attracting the recurring/ongoing illness, pain or sleep trouble and to feel more at ease.

Self-healing to live stronger
Naturally happier life is easy when you decide to take ownership of your health and you feel empowered to heal yourself. I have written several articles on self-healing and empowered thinking – specially written for parents – and they are available for FREE in our wellness program.

Once you know how to find and address the reason for becoming unwell and talking about it with others, you will free yourself of repetitive sickness/sleep deprivation as you can heal yourself.

Imagine if you felt empowered and your child learned from your example how to self-heal, too. It would be fantastic to hear young children answer, ‘Brilliant,’ and to smile this enthusiastically all the way into their adult years.

Children are born with a very strong link between emotional and physical health and are exceptional at manifesting and creating their life based on their emotions. We can help them hold onto this skill that they bring into their new life. I believe parents can nurture this exceptional trait by acknowledging the link between their child’s emotions and their physical health, and even learn from it.

How to apply this powerful message for our children’s health
Learning how to open your mind to emotional needs for becoming unwell will help you identify why your child is becoming unwell. Even though our children may not be able to explain what is troubling them emotionally, you can use a different set of questions in a calm and loving environment to help them understand their own body’s reactions.

I asked my son why he had a sore foot, a complaint he repeatedly mentioned, and he answered that he twisted it. He became animated while he explained exactly how he did it.

We delved deeper into what he couldn’t do because of this sore foot, and I gently asked him where he didn’t want to go. We eventually realized he was afraid of the kinder gym because of the hard tasks he was being asked to do.

I already knew he was out of his comfort zone from his changed personality at kinder gym, even though he had been trying his very best. The continuous talk of kinder gym at home resulted in several accidents involving his feet and legs.

This was 6 weeks ago. We cancelled kinder gym and his ‘alternate personality’ and sore legs and the accidents causing them have been gone since.

This is not a far-stretch of the imagination. The guidance that I receive from my inner voice has helped me time and time again to understand the emotional trauma my son is going through, that creates physical problems such as leg injury, recurring colds, eczema and other injuries.

It is plausible that children suffer from continual viruses, ear-infections and disturbed sleep because they have an emotional need for the condition, and they need the changes that come about because of the condition. A simple emotional and physical need of a child is to rest and grow. Continual viruses could be your child’s way of expressing this need. Keeping the number of hours at playgroups limited to a few hours is healthiest.

By learning the above techniques, we have been been able to maintain better health overall. And this is better for the whole family.

The universe listens to all our thoughts and words and feels the energy, and the universe delivers more of the same. Brilliance is an (obviously) ideal feeling, wouldn’t you say?

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Parenting Ideas

Little adults and their parents

When little toddlers mature into little boys and girls it becomes easier to expect more of them and we find ourselves speaking to them in ways we never used to.

We might expect them to:
– understand consequences
– recognize hazards and dangers
– always be kind and gentle, courteous and polite to others
– be decisive, capable, reasonable, and sensible
– understand the difference between strangers and friends
– read relationships and personalities and know what is appropriate behaviour and language
– respect the order and cleanliness of the house

If the above sounds too theoretical and like it doesn’t apply – think about these questions:

1. Have you become frustrated with your son for changing his mind about what he wants for breakfast?
2. Did you impulsively yell at your daughter when she snatched a toy off a friend?
3. Did you get angry at your son when he did something after you told him it wasn’t safe?
4. Did you raise your voice or yell when your daughter started pulling Tupperware out of the cupboard in a mess?

All of these situations sound fair and like good cause for a parent to get frustrated.

Staying in a calm frame of mind and parenting gently can be hard, particularly when there is tense energy in the environment.

Our idea for you – the parent – is to TRANSFORM the energy into a positive energy you can work with.

This takes a little bit of sacrifice, as you will need to slow down a bit.

You might be a busy person, be mentally tired after work, be physically exhausted. You might have a million things on your mind.

We are all these things at least 2-4 times per day. The easy thing to do when you feel this way is to leave your young children alone and call out to them (scold, discipline) from a distance.

When you do this, your child does NOT feel a change in energy. The energy becomes more agitated and the tension is amplified. They may stop for a moment when they hear your voice – and then carry on to do the same thing seconds later. The same energy is still in motion. You may resort to being rough (verbally or physically) to ‘make your child stop and listen’.

The way you handle the situation, and your relationship with your youngster, is defined in these little moments. Memories are created at these times just as much (if not more) as the moments you:

1. Cuddle up to read a story together before bed
2. Give a piggy-back ride while making silly sounds and laughing together
3. Work together in the kitchen to make a special meal
4. Kiss and soothe a sore spot after a little accident

For little children who do something ‘wrong’ (in our eyes, not theirs), a lecture or hard discipline can overpower the lesson in the event. For example, you may be worried because your son has choked on food after eating too fast and you immediately lecture and get cross. Because children are highly emotional little beings, your anger will stay in their memory more than the message about eating food slowly to prevent further choking. If this kind of parenting response happens regularly – your child will remember your anger and disapproval more than many important lessons.

You need to make a choice about whether you want to take a few extra minutes, several times per day to create and maintain your beautiful relationship. It is worth the effort to slow down and practice transforming energy and educating your child in every opportunity.

In each of the above situations, you could try the following:

1. Have you become frustrated with your son for changing his mind about what he wants for breakfast?
Move closer to him, sit down and calmly acknowledge what he is saying. Transform the energy to a calm, quiet, discussion. Ask him to help you prepare the breakfast he wants. ‘I understand that you don’t feel like eating this. I’d like to hear your idea and to help you, sweetheart. Can you tell me what healthy food you are thinking of?’
2. Did you impulsively yell at your daughter when she snatched a toy off a friend?
Move into your child’s environment and get down on your knees. Transform the energy by gently taking her hand and saying her name, establishing eye contact, and waiting. Explain calmly how the incident is not ok and what your child can do instead. Ask her to practice the better alternative.
3. Did you get angry at your son when he did something after you told him it wasn’t safe?
Move into your child’s environment and transform the busy energy to a waiting energy. Relax and stay with him until the hazard is gone, or the urge to act dangerously has passed. Explain the situation, and tell him that you are there to help him be safe. Help him with the safe alternative.
4. Did you raise your voice or yell when your daughter started pulling Tupperware out of the cupboard in a mess?
Move into your child’s environment, get down on your knees, and be silent. Make a point of calmly looking at the mess that is being created. Be friendly and smile. When your child’s energy has transformed and she is calm and curious, ask gently what she is wanting to do. Then offer to help her, and discuss how you will do it, starting with packing away the Tupperware together. Ask her to talk about her ideas with you first in future.

A little bit of patience and transforming energy to calm, helpful, gentle and friendly energy will improve your day as well as your child’s. It can take a little practice and it helps if both parents have the same approach and support each other – when one parent is weak, the other can be strong and step in to help (because we all need a break at times).

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Parenting Ideas

A little bit of trickery

A little bit of trickery can go a long, long way, when it comes to parenting young children. All the way into your future. Trickery that you use now can create years of happiness.

But first – a question.

Have you noticed that the way you speak to your toddler or little boy/girl has been changing?

Take a moment to imagine the future of your relationship. Do you want to see your son/daughter getting along with you, respecting you, sharing ideas with you, working happily with you, playing sports (other recreational activities) with you as an older child, as a teenager, and as an adult? Your relationship starts now, and the way you speak to your child and interact with them – with your verbal language and body language – will determine how your child feels about you (and how you feel about them, too).

These 5 tricks may help you identify the kind of relationship you have now and whether your relationship can be any different. We all want a long, beautiful future ahead.

Trick 1: The Children Name-Swap
If you have more than one child, play a game of swapping names. For example, spend a day calling Ben ‘Jamie’, and calling Jamie ‘Ben’. Sounds silly – and is fun for the kids. What goes on beneath this game, however, is a whole lot of realization. You may realize that you tend to speak differently to your children. It might sound strange to talk in a gentle, sweet voice to the older child’s name, and conversely you are shocked to hear the innocent baby’s name tacked onto the end of a yell. Swapping the name of your children highlights how you have grown accustomed to treating them differently and that your expectations of your child have changed as he/she has grown older.

Trick 2: Down-age versus Up-age
This trick is another mind-game for you. It is simply about recognizing how far your little one has come already. It’s about seeing them from 0 years to 3 years old, and recognising how remarkable their development has been.

After our children have been around for a little while, it’s easy to take them for granted. Especially when they are trying so hard to be little boys and girls and
all grown-up.

Remember – they are not 30 going on 3. They are 2 going on 3.

There’s a (for example) 27 year gap in life education between what we have and what they have. Think about what they have learned in 3 years and how remarkable their achievements are, as compared to how far they are falling short.

More patience, more admiration, more compliments, more positive feedback, more help and guidance, and more gentle language from you will go a long way.

Trick 3: Parent and child Name-swap
Similar to Trick 1, this trick involves swapping names. But this time you will call your children the parents’ names, and visa versa. This will also highlight how you speak to your child (and your spouse) and you may find that you are a touch too aggressive or impatient and treating different family members with pre-set ideas about how they will respond.

Think about why you talk to your spouse, or son, the way you do. Do you expect them to react a certain way? Why? Try to change your expectation by visualizing the outcome you want. Talk to your spouse, or your child, with a positive expectation in mind. You will find it easier to show respect, patience and love.

Trick 4: Pretend your child is a stranger
This is actually very hard to do. Can you be very aware of everything you say to your child and reflect on whether you would have spoken the same way to a stranger, or to another person’s child?

Why we believe it’s ok to speak unkindly to our own children but must speak kindly to friend’s children’s baffles me.

I believe in speaking nicely to ALL children.

Pretending your child is a stranger – by likening the way you speak to them to how you speak to a stranger at the shops – is a great tool to seeing how you might be seen from the other person’s viewpoint.

Trick 5. Playing grown-ups
This is the greatest trick of all time, and it’s not for the parent. And in fact, it’s already happening.

Your little one has tricked you already and may trick you again.

He or she is pretending to be grown up everyday. They do this by mimicking you, copying your behaviour, vocabulary and reciting your ideas. (But you can’t always see it because you are too close, and it is normal every day life.)

Your child doesn’t yet understand the reasons behind many things you do during the day. They roll along and join in, and even try doing most of it on their own.

We start to believe they are capable of being left alone.

He is only a little boy. She is only a little girl. They need our constant help, guidance, support and direction. They don’t yet know enough to make decisions and to be doing things alone.

On the upside, they are at a perfect age for learning HOW this is done.

So spend as much time with your little adult as you possibly can and move through the day and all their big decisions together. It is so important that they have your help to see how to approach situations and solve problems, to make and keep friends, and to have a fun day.

You only need to see the smile on your child’s face to know this is all worth the effort.

Happy Tricking, and Happy Treating!

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